burningashes Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I started a thread a while ago about saying "I love you" to my boyfriend. I kept postponing it because I didn't feel ready, and I was scared that he wouldn't return the favor, etc, etc. We were dancing around it, with him hinting subtly and me avoiding saying it outright. One night, I decided I would tell him that I love him, and was about to when he got a phone call from his mother. He told me that his uncle died and that he had to fly out across the country for the funeral for a few days. I held back because I didn't feel like it was an appropriate time and decided to wait till he got back. In his absence, I REALLY missed him and found myself loving him more and wishing that I had told him how I felt about him before he left. It was then I was sure of my love for him, with no doubt at all, I was convinced right there that I was going to tell him as soon as he got back. Boy, I'm so glad I did. I saw him last night and after having conversations about his trip and what I've been up to, etc, he pulled me close to cuddle on the couch. He laid his head on my chest and we laid there for a while holding each other. It was the perfect moment for me, so I took a deep breath and gave him a nudge. He looked up at me and I said it. "What?" He asked me, unsure if he heard me right the first time. So I told him that I love him again, and he goes, "Wow, where did that come from?" "I really missed you," I told him. He had the biggest grin on his face ever and said that he loves me too. I really did take a huge leap of courage to say that, despite my fears and doubts that he might not feel the same. I kept reminding me that he's been seeing me for five months now and if he didn't feel that way, he would have run a long time ago. I'm so happy I finally got to share how I feel with him and I don't regret it one bit. I guess.. I wrote this to say thanks everyone for your helpful advice regarding the problems I was having. I'll pass on the advice for those who are wondering too, whether it's too soon or too late to say "I love you," just say it. It's better having said it than not having said it at all!
justcurious66 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 That is a really sweet story and made me smile just reading it. Don't you just love the the butterflies that come with the thrill of new love?! Congrats to you!!
Mahatma Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Hey I remember posting on your topic that you had made a while back about it! I too told my girlfriend I loved her (9 months). We had talked about it many times prior in our relationship and it seemed to me like she did not want to say it because of a past relationship where it was said but not meant. I was fine with not saying it, but I knew I loved her and I knew she loved me. Basically what I said to her was that "if after 9 months we still only 'like' each other, it is time to move on in my opinion." Before all this we were on the phone one night and we said our good bye's and she slipped and said "I love you." She very quickly apologized and was clearly worried I would get detached because she said it. I can finally tell her how much I love her instead of telling her how much I like her. I am glad you too have moved past it.
Author burningashes Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 Thanks guys Mahatma- nine months is a pretty long time, but I'm glad it worked out for you in the end I remember IslandGirl's account on my other thread of how her husband tried to tell her how much he liked her, as in, more than like and she goes, "Yeah, I know, you love me." That's a good story too!
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