b10wick Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Well, here's the situation. Let me start by saying I know we are young.. I know that. I am 19, she is 17. We've been dating for nearly 2 1/2 years, we met when I was a junior in high school, she was a freshman. I'm now in my first year at a community college, and she is a junior. Back in the beginning of March the high school had a snow day, so she went to go volunteer for NHS. We talked the night before, she told me she loved me, etc. Now, when she gets home from volunteering she sends me a TEXT message saying she thought it would be better if we were broken up. I was completely caught by surprise. I couldn't believe it. It's not like we were fighting or anything, we were absolutely FINE. A couple of friends of mine that go to Rutgers Univ. invited me up with them, so I went and spent the night or two up there. I didn't hear from her at all that initial night. The next day she called, and finally gave in. She finally admitted that she was talking to another guy, and even said that she was over his house an HOUR after she broke up with me. At this point I completely broke down and started crying. I couldn't believe it. Now this kid is completely wrong for her, he smokes, drinks, does drugs, sleeps with any girl he can, etc. Me and her both did none of those things, but for some reason her personality just seemed to change so instantly. I've talked to her a couple times since the break up, which happened on March 1st, and at one point it seemed like she may have wanted to get back with me. However, she has a stubborn personality and that has always come into play, and to say the least we are still broken up. It's been a very tough month almost. I'm going to keep it short, and avoid a couple of other details. My question is, as crazy as this may sound.. I do want to be back with her. I've talked to her maybe twice in the past two weeks, with both conversations being initialized by her. I'm currently in the 'I'm not talking to you unless you make an attempt to talk to me' phase. Is this the right way to go? Will she really realize sooner or later that she misses me, and come back? Or do you think that she being with this other kid will last. Like I said, I'm all ears, and I need help. I do want to be back with her, but at the same time with every day that passes that perspective of mine decreases. I just hope she realizes sooner rather then later.
messed-mind Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Dude she's 17 and has the mind of a child - there is no way to salvage a mature and loving relationship here. Additionally, she's not with you because.... she doesn't want to be with you! That's fact. If she moved on with someone else that fast, it sounds like you're really not on her mind. Granted, she might come back to you as a backup if the new guy doesn't pan out, but do you want to go back to her after that? I'll let you on a secret and something I learned the hard way about people: even if the guy is an a-hole, even if he smokes and drinks, if she feels attracted to him then these things will not matter. She likes him, and she wants to pursue him. She'll grow up one day, look back and think "wow what was I thinking" but by then you and he could be long gone. First loves and new life experiences. You could hang around for her, but you'll only prolong the pain instead of getting out there and enjoying the best years of your life.
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