Author CM2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 The tide is slowly turning for me =)
Author CM2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 Well the last couple of days she has been text'n me, calling me. Our convo's have been pretty good not really talking about problems but other things like the kids, college bball. (her and I love bball) I told her that I was leaving town but I wasn't giving much detail on when I was coming back home. I guess it shocked her because I usually tell her advance when I'm leaving and when I'm coming back. But she's been calling, text'n me, she sent one saying "hope your having a good time," out of the blue so we'll see what happends next but I see her trying to keep a little more contact with me, what do you guys think?
seibert253 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Well the last couple of days she has been text'n me, calling me. Our convo's have been pretty good not really talking about problems but other things like the kids, college bball. (her and I love bball) I told her that I was leaving town but I wasn't giving much detail on when I was coming back home. I guess it shocked her because I usually tell her advance when I'm leaving and when I'm coming back. But she's been calling, text'n me, she sent one saying "hope your having a good time," out of the blue so we'll see what happends next but I see her trying to keep a little more contact with me, what do you guys think? Seems she's missing you a little bit. I'd continue to allow her to miss me. I wouldn't answer all her calls and texts. When you get back, I wouldn't let her know, let her find out on her own. I also wouldn't tell her much about my trip, only that "I had a great time and met several very wonderful people". Let her sweat and allow her immagination to kick in. Is he really moving on? Has he met someone else? Etc, Etc.
Author CM2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 Seems she's missing you a little bit. I'd continue to allow her to miss me. I wouldn't answer all her calls and texts. When you get back, I wouldn't let her know, let her find out on her own. I also wouldn't tell her much about my trip, only that "I had a great time and met several very wonderful people". Let her sweat and allow her immagination to kick in. Is he really moving on? Has he met someone else? Etc, Etc. It seems as if but I wish I could stay a few more days and really make her sweat it. I hope she really is thinking "what is this man doing," When I told her I was leaving the other night she was kinda caught off guard like "wth," I'm going on a business trip, plus its where I was born at so I have a lot of family out, plus she knows I use to have woman friends out there. But I'm not doing anything bad though, but I am going out tonight because its my last night here and my older cousin is taking me to a club to hang out. I know it's a Wednesday but who care's it's a big city so their is a lot of things going on in the Windy City =) Should I tell her I went to a club or bs something to her? Oh and the other day I pretty much said that I'm happy and having a good time, but this is before I left town.
Author CM2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 I'm back ya'll and guess who called again!! You guess it, the wife. I didn't pick it up because well I didn't want to plus I was busy. So I went to sleep when I got back to my room and checked her message. An wanted to know if I was back home from my trip and then wanted to go to dinner on Friday. HA HA HA, so i'll make her wait before I give her an answer.
Author CM2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 Ok folks we're going out tomorrow night. We're not gonna talk about what's been up in regards to drama, just to chill with each other. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate. Thanks
Gunny376 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 What is your major malfunction? Your doing the 180 of what worked for!
Author CM2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 What is your major malfunction? Your doing the 180 of what worked for! I really don't get your question, sorry!!
troubadour Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 What is your major malfunction? Your doing the 180 of what worked for! CM2009... I agree with Gunny376 completely.
Author CM2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 What is your major malfunction? Your doing the 180 of what worked for! So I should I do? Just wait to see what her plans are?
seibert253 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 So I should I do? Just wait to see what her plans are? I don't know man. If it were me, I wouldn't want to seem like a pushover for her. You don't want to appear desperate. I don't think I would do a dinner date, but I'd probably meet her somewhere for an informal lunch or something. Just to feel her out and see what happens next. No matter what you do, maintain your distance physically and emotionally. It will be hard not to hug, hold, and kiss her, but I think she needs to know what life will be like without you. Good Luck and be strong. Keep your upper hand, don't give it back to her.
Author CM2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I don't know man. If it were me, I wouldn't want to seem like a pushover for her. You don't want to appear desperate. I don't think I would do a dinner date, but I'd probably meet her somewhere for an informal lunch or something. Just to feel her out and see what happens next. No matter what you do, maintain your distance physically and emotionally. It will be hard not to hug, hold, and kiss her, but I think she needs to know what life will be like without you. Good Luck and be strong. Keep your upper hand, don't give it back to her. That was my approach, I wasn't going to do any hugging or anything like that. She may try and if I was gonna hug her it would've been one of those cold one's like the one your Mom made you give your siblings when you two fight. I wasn't gonna do much talking and see where her head was. Should I just do a bs cancel and say something came up or should I handle this like I an adult and just go and see what she's talking about? Just a lot on my mind. I want to go but I don't because I don't wanna really lose my edge. But I'm kind of at the point as where I almost don't care if we get back together. I have time to really figure this out, so please the more advice the better, thanks
seibert253 Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I think the dinner thing could be OK, but you need to remain emotionally and physically distant. I wouldn't do the formal date thing, such as you pick her up at her place, travel together to and fro, yada, yada. I would meet her there. Yeah, lettin' her do the most talking sounds good. There probably will come a point when she'll ask you about how you feel, etc, etc. I'd throw it back on her, "you know how I feel, that hasn't changed, but I have to be practical and prepare for life without you if that's where this ends". She has the ball now, and depending what she does, you'll have a better understanding of where you stand, what she's feeling, and how to approach this F'd up situation. Good Luck and God Bless.
Author CM2009 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I think the dinner thing could be OK, but you need to remain emotionally and physically distant. I wouldn't do the formal date thing, such as you pick her up at her place, travel together to and fro, yada, yada. I would meet her there. Yeah, lettin' her do the most talking sounds good. There probably will come a point when she'll ask you about how you feel, etc, etc. I'd throw it back on her, "you know how I feel, that hasn't changed, but I have to be practical and prepare for life without you if that's where this ends". She has the ball now, and depending what she does, you'll have a better understanding of where you stand, what she's feeling, and how to approach this F'd up situation. Good Luck and God Bless. Yeah I think she could be moving on cause she said she'll meet me, which is fine with me
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