jadelil25 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Ok. I have been with my boyfriend for just under 3 months. Most of the time things seem to be good and it is his first proper relationship. He has been getting really tired recently and worked long hours last week, he also had a very busy weekend as he had to sort out a lot for his mum on mothers day. Due to all of this he has ended up getting sick and was off work yesterday. I dont think I helped because I got upset due to being ill my self and having a crappy time at work. I ended up crying down the phone at him and apologising. He said that im not to worry and ive not done anything wrong he is just not well at the moment. I do worry tho because I care and I dont want to make him un happy. He is sometimes distant when im not with him and he is quite shy and loves his mum a lot. He has moved out from home due to work and talks to her everyday and sometimes goes home to see her at the weekend. Once or twice a month and I understand this as family are important. When we are together he shows me and tells me how much he likes me and cares about me, wants to be there for me and make me happy. He knows about me being abused in the past, being cheated on and that im getting professional help. He has been great. The question: If you are ill and are very tired would you like your partner to give you space so that you can get better and catch up on your sleep? Especially because it is early in the relationship and you dont want to pass the bug on? Is it still ok to communicate with him? How can I show him that I care and that im there for him? I really need your helps and opinions. Thank you and sorry that it is soooo long.
St. Nick Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 If I was ill and tired I'd definitely want some space, not just from my g/f but from everybody. I don't consider that being hostile but I just want some time alone to recover. After I'm done recovering then I want my friends and family around me. I was ill last Sunday and Monday. I stayed inside both days and didn't make contact with anyone. Now today I'm looking for some friends to hang out with and they're all busy. Sucks to be me. I don't think you did anything wrong. He was just real out of it to put his full attention to you. Don't worry about it. When he's feeling better things will start heating up again.
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