angelofdeath0101 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 So I met this wonderful woman through my best friend's fiance'. She came down from Pennsylvania (her home) to visit Tennessee (her friend's home) for a few weeks. Since she was staying at my friend's apartment, I started going over more often than normal to talk to her. We really got to know each other and we really clicked together. I mean this girl really hung the moon for me. We started out just talking, then we got more intimate as time went by. We wend out on a few dates, had great times. Then, the last day (a month later) before she left, we slept together. I kinda fell for her, she knows that, she also has strong feelings for me as well because she told me. She told me no other guy has ever treated her so well as a person like I have. Now she has gone back home. Six-hundred miles away.... Its left myself wondering, is that it? She really wanted to move down here beforehand when we first started to get really close, but now I'm not so sure. Did I screw up by sleeping with her, even if it was her proposal? Don't get me wrong, it was wonderful, but my friends tell me the sex was like a "farewell" in her eyes. I'm not really sure though, I thought it was the opposite. I mean we can still text or call each other up. But the LDR thing is really tough to pull off even if we were both willing to try that sort of thing. I'm not killing myself over it or anything, it just bothers me because I miss her already. I was wondering what you guys think from "outside the box". Was it just a fling in her eyes? Did she just accept the fact we lived too far apart? What did I do wrong?
Rose81 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Maybe you should ask her if you can visit her. She might be in a relationship....
BCCA Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 You didnt do anything wrong, you were just kind of in a situation that was doomed from the start. Similar thing happened to me, friend of mine's cousin was in from out of town, we were two peas in a pod, hung out for the entire time she was here, everyday, and we eventually were intimate. But then reality reared its ugly head: she lived in Virginia, I live in California. Even if your situation is a lot closer, what do you even do with that? Surely a month isnt enough 'getting to know' someone to want to move for the sake of a *potential* relationship. She probably accepted the fact that you two lived too far apart, and simply weren't going to work. What did the sex mean to her? Who knows, could be a good bye, could be she was horny, or she could have wanted to leave you something to remember her by. What matters is that it seems that this ran its course, sad to say.
Author angelofdeath0101 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 You didnt do anything wrong, you were just kind of in a situation that was doomed from the start. Similar thing happened to me, friend of mine's cousin was in from out of town, we were two peas in a pod, hung out for the entire time she was here, everyday, and we eventually were intimate. But then reality reared its ugly head: she lived in Virginia, I live in California. Even if your situation is a lot closer, what do you even do with that? Surely a month isnt enough 'getting to know' someone to want to move for the sake of a *potential* relationship. She probably accepted the fact that you two lived too far apart, and simply weren't going to work. What did the sex mean to her? Who knows, could be a good bye, could be she was horny, or she could have wanted to leave you something to remember her by. What matters is that it seems that this ran its course, sad to say. Thanks. I love it when someone gives it to me straight. Maybe I just needed to hear it from someone else.
St. Nick Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I wouldn't go off to visit her though. That would most likely scare her away.
loveslife Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Hey, it's your life. Don't let anyone tell you what to do or not to do. Follow your heart. Take a little time to think this through but do what feels right to you. Remember that people on this board are basing their advice based on who they are, their own views of relationships and their own experiences. Anything is possible. And you'll never know unless you try! A friend of mine from NYC met a guy when she was in Calif. for a weekend! They ended up getting married!
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