OMs, some of the justifications you've heard

[janjan]

Hi All,

 

Not too long ago I found myself being an Emotional OM. At the time I was viewing what was happening between us as her seeing there was something else out there for her and we would eventually get together, but apparently on her end i was just OM material after all. Long story short, she broke up with him, gave me a half assed try, then went running off with some other guy.

 

Guys, whatever emotional justification the person comes up with, don't fall for it. I guess this goes for gals too. I've learned my lesson. Whatever story they spin about how the relationship is dead, their SO is an *******, don't think that makes it okay. At some point they will guilt trip, and twist things around and make that justification meaningless, treat you like some troublemaker, and leave you feeling like a pile of crap.

 

Here's one to start:

 

I went away on holiday, and she emailed me saying how she and her bf were really arguing, that they went out together and she was screaming at him. She acted like emailing me and hearing from me took her mind off those things. Well I would soon learn just how good she was at provoking arguments whenever she wanted, and that she only did that to get attention from me because my attention was scarce at the time (i was abroad). At the time I actually believed her crap about how he nitpicks everything she does and it drives her crazy, now I feel so bad that he had to put up with that crap so she set up getting an attention fix from me.

 

Anyone else? lol.

[65tr6]

Guys, whatever emotional justification the person comes up with, don't fall for it. I guess this goes for gals too. I've learned my lesson. Whatever story they spin about how the relationship is dead, their SO is an *******, don't think that makes it okay. .

 

I am glad you learnt your lesson..But does it need an affair to learn this lesson ?

[phineas]

I hate to say when I was in my early twenties taking night clases I hooked up with a few "study buddies" that were good looking married women in their late 30's early 40's.

 

At the time I thought their vows wern't my responcibility.

I also justified it by saying if I wasn't getting lucky with them someone else would.

 

I thought I was the king back then.

Now I look back & I'm not exactly ashamed, but deffinetly not something I brag about if that makes sense.

[willing]

Is this only for OM, or for OW too?

 

*OM's justification was that he just didn't feel that much desire for W.

 

*My justification was that my H had cheated several times, while I stayed faithful to him for over twenty years and so --"he didn't deserve my fidelity".