yeex Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Went on a few dates with a girl. They went well. She never called me though, I would always have to do the calling. She kept saying that she would like to go out again and said she liked me. I liked her. Then a couple of weeks ago, we talked on the phone and it was good and we agreed to go on a date for that next week. I told her that I would call her in a week with an exact time and place. I called her then and left a voicemail, and she never returned my call so I felt kind of blown off. Have not heard from her since. Should I try to contact her one more time? Or should I look at it as the ball is in her court and if she is interested she will call me? I have dated another one in the meantime but that was not that great and I like this one in question, but I do not want to appear desperate. I am thinking it is best just to move on from it, but every time I drink a few beers, I am tempted to contact her again.. .haha.
theraven Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I would give her another call... that's just me, though. What will it hurt to call again? Absolutely nothing! You don't want to regret this later on down the road and just wish that you would have tried again. I think you should give her another call and leave a voicemail if she doesn't answer. Just tell her you've had a good time with her and look forward to hearing from her soon. Idk, that's something you could say. But yeah, if she doesn't reply back in any way sometime soon, definitely move on. I guess that's all I got to say. Good luck!
samspade Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 If someone wants to spend time with you, she will call you back and make time to be with you. Her interest level in you is low. Maybe - MAYBE - call one more time, but that is it. Don't do it drunk!
Lindarose84 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Sorry to say, but I'm thinking she may not be interested anymore. The calling thing I would excuse because I'm not a big caller myself- as a woman, I hate talking on the phone and only do it when I REALLY have to. But the fact that you called this chick and left a VM and she has failed to have the common courtesy of returning the call (without even so much as a text), means she may not be as invested in this budding relationship as you are. If I'm interested in a guy, I make it pretty clear. Rarely do I ignore a guy (only if he's a serious nutjob) so if I do, that's a pretty strong signal to the guy that I'm not interested. I wouldn't waste my time trying to contact this person who didn't show you enough respect to return your first call. Honestly, I know theraven asked, "what will it hurt?" but I think you have your pride and self-respect to lose if you continue the behaviour of allowing people the opportunity get away with not treating you the way you deserve. You call her and that tells her that you will let her get away with ignoring you because you went ahead and called her again saying you still wanted to see her and that you had a great time? That's a pattern that won't end with her and you'll keep doing it with your other relationships and soon enough, girls will see you as the guy then can walk on. Send her the message, by either waiting for her to contact you or moving on, that you deserve more than being ignored and that if she's not willing to see that and respect that she can screw herself.
Author yeex Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Sorry to say, but I'm thinking she may not be interested anymore. The calling thing I would excuse because I'm not a big caller myself- as a woman, I hate talking on the phone and only do it when I REALLY have to. But the fact that you called this chick and left a VM and she has failed to have the common courtesy of returning the call (without even so much as a text), means she may not be as invested in this budding relationship as you are. If I'm interested in a guy, I make it pretty clear. Rarely do I ignore a guy (only if he's a serious nutjob) so if I do, that's a pretty strong signal to the guy that I'm not interested. I wouldn't waste my time trying to contact this person who didn't show you enough respect to return your first call. Honestly, I know theraven asked, "what will it hurt?" but I think you have your pride and self-respect to lose if you continue the behaviour of allowing people the opportunity get away with not treating you the way you deserve. You call her and that tells her that you will let her get away with ignoring you because you went ahead and called her again saying you still wanted to see her and that you had a great time? That's a pattern that won't end with her and you'll keep doing it with your other relationships and soon enough, girls will see you as the guy then can walk on. Send her the message, by either waiting for her to contact you or moving on, that you deserve more than being ignored and that if she's not willing to see that and respect that she can screw herself. yeah, I totally agree with this. I think I will just move on even though it is kind of hard. Oh well we did not go out for that long. But it was great for the short time we did. Sucks things can change so quick.
crfsti Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I feel your pain man, this has happened to me many times.
samiam143 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 She lost interest or something better came along. Sorry to be so harsh. This probably won't be the last of her. Because if whatever she has going on doesn't work out, I'll bet she contacts you. Lame I know.
Author yeex Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 She lost interest or something better came along. Sorry to be so harsh. This probably won't be the last of her. Because if whatever she has going on doesn't work out, I'll bet she contacts you. Lame I know. Yeah, I realize this. We were not "exclusive". This is just the reality of dating.
samiam143 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 It most definitely is. That's why you don't let it bother you and get out there and find someone better!
Author yeex Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Thanks everybody for responding. I knew deep down to move on. I just wanted to hear it from other people. Now when I drink a few beers, I won't be tempted to contact her ..lol
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