Does she still love me? Can I still rekindle our amazing love we used to have?

[theraven]

I'm 17 years old... I have been dating this girl for 20 months now! I know I'm young and in high school, but I honestly feel like she's the one. I have been in plenty of relationships and I had always been the short term/player kind of guy. When I got with this one, I wasn't expecting to fall in love. I wasn't expecting to fall in love until college or after. But I did... I am!!! We both have felt very strongly over these last 2 years. We always tell each other how we are in love and want to spend our lives with each other. We have always had the best, most fun, most healthy relationship. Lately, she has been acting kinda weird, though. We talked about it, and I realized that she doesn't love me like she used to. It has died down a bit. I don't really understand. I am the best boyfriend to her. I am so sweet to her! Every time we see one of her girlfriends, they tell her how lucky she is to have a guy that treats her like I do. I don't get how after 2 years, her love for me can just die. It makes no sense to me. We pretty much decided that this is not good and that we are going to try and fix it. I want to fix it because I feel like it can be fixed... And she says she wants to fix it to. I feel like she's the one for me and that she loves me just as much as she did when we first fell in love, so she will realize it was just a little bump in the road. But I'm scared that this might be permanent. I don't want to lose her. I just want everything to get back to normal and us have that amazing relationship that we used to have. Is that possible at this stage? Or is it too late... I don't want to lose her... And I'm scared that might happen

[samspade]

Hey, man. First, two years is a long time when you're a teenager. Your gf might just be interested in dating around again, and if that's the case, you can't really do much about it.

 

Here's what you can do: Back off. Don't be "so sweet to her." You might be smothering her. I'm 33, and I've made the mistake of being too sweet to a girl I dated. Women find that kind of constant milquetoast sensitivity boring, my friend. So if you really want to keep her, create some distance. Hell, break up with her and take some time to think. She may come running back - for a little while, anyway.

 

Here is one lesson I can impart to you: Don't ever be afraid to lose anyone. You must always be willing to walk away if you need to. I know it is scary at a young age to face a breakup, but they will happen, and you need to be happy with yourself, because sometimes that's all you'll have!

[Danger]

Hey, man. First, two years is a long time when you're a teenager. Your gf might just be interested in dating around again, and if that's the case, you can't really do much about it.

 

Here's what you can do: Back off. Don't be "so sweet to her." You might be smothering her. I'm 33, and I've made the mistake of being too sweet to a girl I dated. Women find that kind of constant milquetoast sensitivity boring, my friend. So if you really want to keep her, create some distance. Hell, break up with her and take some time to think. She may come running back - for a little while, anyway.

 

Here is one lesson I can impart to you: Don't ever be afraid to lose anyone. You must always be willing to walk away if you need to. I know it is scary at a young age to face a breakup, but they will happen, and you need to be happy with yourself, because sometimes that's all you'll have!

 

Take this advice.