jpl Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 i met someone about a month ago at a friends party, we got along great and ended up kissing at the end of the night. Since then we have been dating and things have been going great better than great. The thing is the day i met her she had broken up with her boyfriend of three years. Now a few weeks later she tells me that shes back with him but still wants to be with me, and that shes confused and doesnt know what to do. So technically shes taken at the moment but she still wants to continue to see me. and i know its wrong but i really like being with her as well. Lately shes been writing alot of lovey dovey stuff about her bf on facebook. I feel like this should be my cue to step off and just let them be together. Although i know if i keep going she will too. Should i just let her go?! a part of me does but another part wants me to keep going because maybe shell break up with him and be mine. she keeps telling me how im perfect for her and all this other stuff. This is so hard because she makes me really happy.. i havent felt this happy in a really long time. although what shes doing is wrong she really is a really great girl. and i feel for her bf but hes cheated on her many of times. by the way he is currently off at the air force acadamy for a couple months i really wonder what will happen when he returns.. i just want to know what you guys think or what you would do in my situation.
BCCA Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 RUN!!! Youre being taken advantage of. She has no intentions on breaking up with her BF, otherwise she would have. Believe that. Any crap she gives you about being confused is merely a cover for her behavior. and i know its wrong but... Stop right there. You know its wrong, there are no if's ands or buts. When you play with fire, you usually get burned. I feel like this should be my cue to step off and just let them be together Your cue should have been the moment she mentioned an ex and being together with him. She gave you a disclaimer: hey im with my ex, so continue to be my 'on the side' guy at your own risk, but realize that I've already made my decision. Well, she wasnt that clear, but thats what she said. she keeps telling me how im perfect for her and all this other stuff Youre so perfect that shes still with her bf. So incredible that shes passing on you to date someone else. See where Im going here? Talk is SO cheap, and her actions dont follow her words, do they? and i feel for her bf but hes cheated on her many of times Did you see him do it? Do you know first hand? Because, if I had to guess, this is a lie that shes using to justify her behavior. Its fine to creep around behind his back, hes a cheater. And you WANT to believe it, because it fits into what you want to happen with her. The typical story, a wonderful girl stuck with a cheating a-hole, and here you come to rescue her. No offense, but this is a fantasy. There arent a lot of people who would take a cheater back with someone else in the wings, more often than not, THEY are actually the cheater. by the way he is currently off at the air force acadamy for a couple months i really wonder what will happen when he returns. She'll dissapear faster than you can say 'what happened'. Youre here right now passing the time, thats all. My friend, she would never stay with a cheater if she was interested in dating you. Shes using you both. Youre allowing her to have her cake, and eat it, too. Even more, youre justifying this behavior because it suits your short term needs. i just want to know what you guys think or what you would do in my situation Well, you really only have one option, unless you like being an alternate. You have to tell her that as long as her and this guy are together, she needs to stay away from you. If she decides that youre the one for her, she needs to dump him first, and you can talk about it. Until she does that, you dont want to hear anything she has to say. She will try and BS you any and every way she possibly can to get what she wants, and mark my words, what she wants is attention when/where she wants it. I wouldnt be surprised if she was getting it from other people, too. Dont be a bench player, fallback, time passing, spineless chump. This situation has 'get burned' written all over it. She needs to make a decison and stick with it. You deserve so much better. If I had to guess, you wont hear from her, and shell find someone else to pass the time with when hes away in the military.
bkaz01 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 you were a rebound.....is that the kind of girl u wanna be with wait til shes does to u what she is doing with him. girls are shady like that they crave attention sometimes and u were the source til she went back to her ex walk away before its to late and ur hurt more and shes happy w him
EmperorR Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 you were a rebound.....is that the kind of girl u wanna be with wait til shes does to u what she is doing with him. girls are shady like that they crave attention sometimes and u were the source til she went back to her ex walk away before its to late and ur hurt more and shes happy w him Yup 100% true.
Alex_M Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Laugh in her face and leave. She doesn't deserve either you or her BF. I know it's easy to ignore what we say on here, but it's hard to realise the crappy things about someone when you're infatuated. She might not be a bad person but right now she's being selfish and only thinking about herself otherwise she would have instantly made a decision and hurt herself instead of hurting others. Trust me you don't want to be a part of that.
messed-mind Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Sounds like a selfish, cake-and-eat-it attention whore. Run like you've got dynamite stuck up your bum, or you're in for being dragged across the emotional red hot coals and dropped like a hot rock.
Donovan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 just like everyone else is saying, you were a rebound/insurance. she still wants him. the thing is, you probably treat her better than he does, but women don't want that. they feel more attached to a guy that cheats on them, beats them, and overall treats them bad. when a guy comes along and treats them nice, they do those things to that dude. leave her alone and let her chase the player and just destroy her life and not both of yours. chances are, she's gonna play you in the future too. I've been thru it recently myself.
kdark Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 just like everyone else is saying, you were a rebound/insurance. she still wants him. the thing is, you probably treat her better than he does, but women don't want that. they feel more attached to a guy that cheats on them, beats them, and overall treats them bad. when a guy comes along and treats them nice, they do those things to that dude. leave her alone and let her chase the player and just destroy her life and not both of yours. chances are, she's gonna play you in the future too. I've been thru it recently myself. GIRLS attach themselves to cheating a-holes. WOMEN do not. Big difference. The OP needs to grow a spine and stop playing doormat to an attention starved girl.
Donovan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 GIRLS attach themselves to cheating a-holes. WOMEN do not. Big difference. The OP needs to grow a spine and stop playing doormat to an attention starved girl. i agree with this. thank you.
Author jpl Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 damn it sure is funny how much you ignore when your really into someone huh... thanks for opening up my eyes guys/gals. told the girl that im done with her game. even if she did break up with him i wouldnt even give her a shot now dont need a girl like that. just wish i didnt leave my crown royal at her house. =[ oh well lol, THANKS.
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