Mary3 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Our supervisor is always asking us : " Do you want to go to my church with me " ? Of course, everyone says no. I find it irritating as I feel he is in a supervisory postion and when we say no ( freedom of our religions and personal beliefs right , ? ) He then asks " Oh come on , why NOT ? Why don't you want to go to my church ? He does this every week. He always gets a NO. He keeps it up. One shy quiet guy who doesnt know how to say no is going along. I never felt so irritated as I did today. He is a former equal coworker bad boy turned religious ( His church is the one where people fall to the ground and speak in tounges ) Not for me. Is his behavior inappropriate ? Can I go to HR ? What are the rules regarding this if any ?
nana yaw II Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 it is inappropriate. as a supervisor, he shouldn't impose his religion onto his subordinates. I can think of two options here. first, kindly say that his church sounds intriguing, but you aren't keen on church going, but thanks for the invite. I don't think it makes sense to be hostile. Also, say that you don't approve of him asking you to go to his church a lot. perhaps your team/unit could do this as a group, since you all feel put off by it. As a supervisor, it is his job to take account of the needs of his subordinates.
JamesM Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 It is inappropriate. My guess is that he still thinks of himself as a colleague and friend. He does not see this as any sort of coercion.
TwinkletOes26 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 he prolly still sees yall as his equals talk to him first. If he still doesnt let up then go to hr
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Is his behavior inappropriate ? Can I go to HR I wouldn't go to HR unless you speak to your boss and then he still continues to ask you to go to Church with him. Honestly, I think you have every right to say (nicely), "Thanks for thinking of me, but I'm really not interested in going to Church, I'd appreciate it if you didn't keep asking me." or something like that..
Enema Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Agreed with wwiu. Don't go to HR unless you've asked the boss to stop pressuring about church and he continues to do so.
RecordProducer Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I can imagine how annoying it might be, but he probably isn't aware of it nor does he mean bad. I'd just tell him repeatedly that I don't go to Church, thank you and that's all. With a smile. It's not like he is asking you to go to dinner with him.
D-Lish Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I'd be sooooo freaking annoyed by this. Especially after saying no so many times. I think you have to get firm the next time with a NO, and "I'm never going to change my mind, please stop asking". You could just shout at him "NO MEANS NO!!" I had a neighbour in my building that used to do this to me ALL THE TIME. I remember sitting in my courtyard with my date one sunday morning- we had just woken up after a great night of sex and sin... She came strolling out and urged us to come to church with her. My loft was right above hers.... so I am sure she was quite aware I'd been sinning all night:eek: I don't think it matters if people "mean well" or not- it's still intrusive- and it's inappropriate to be urging such a thing when he's in a supervisory role. The rule of thumb is always to try and resolve it yourself first before heading to HR. I don't think it would hurt to tell him it's annoying you.
Author Mary3 Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 I'd be sooooo freaking annoyed by this. Especially after saying no so many times. I think you have to get firm the next time with a NO, and "I'm never going to change my mind, please stop asking". You could just shout at him "NO MEANS NO!!" I had a neighbour in my building that used to do this to me ALL THE TIME. I remember sitting in my courtyard with my date one sunday morning- we had just woken up after a great night of sex and sin... She came strolling out and urged us to come to church with her. My loft was right above hers.... so I am sure she was quite aware I'd been sinning all night:eek: I don't think it matters if people "mean well" or not- it's still intrusive- and it's inappropriate to be urging such a thing when he's in a supervisory role. The rule of thumb is always to try and resolve it yourself first before heading to HR. I don't think it would hurt to tell him it's annoying you. Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author Mary3 Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 Okay he asked again TODAY ( not to me directly this time ) he asked another coworker and my coworker said Um NO. And then a few of the employees kind of rolled their eyes and snickered. The guy is like brainwashed in a trance and sings religious songs all day ..and says he SHAKES and fell to the ground the last time~~~~~~~~~ * oh woopeee * Anyways I am pissed at him and wont talk to him. I tried to be civil but he has asked me ( lets see ) Over 30 times this past 2 months to go ! Ugh.
EmperorR Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I'm a christian, but no means no. I would talk to HR, work should be free of this sort of thing.
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