burning 4 revenge Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I'm the real deal babe, and you know it , Youre the guy Humphrey Bogart portrayed in the Maltese Falcon?
chrislovestosurf Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I agree with the OP. It's a turn off seeing a 30 year old man having a dating range 18- to whatever. I also am turned off by men that can't even date their own age or up to their own age. It's kind of like the are rejecting themselves since they are that age. If that man doesn't want to date someone his own age, why should I want to date someone his age? All these age threads makes me realize that no matter what you do as a woman, we are fighting a loosing battle because men don't really give a crap about us as people apparently and care more about if we are 18 or not anymore. Is there such a thing as real love or only lust when it comes to men? I guess you men win and we women loose. Hope this makes you men feel happy and more like men because it makes me feel pretty hopeless about finding a turly good man that will think I am goregous and sexy despite getting older, as we all do. you are just whining because you are in a rut right now. You know better than that, to think all men want is sex. Plenty of guys want a girl like you or the girl right next to you to get serious with. You just have not run into one lately i assume. Some men like to **** for fun, some like to get seriously involved.
Sam Spade Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Youre the guy Humphrey Bogart portrayed in the Maltese Falcon? Well, okay, he's the real deal . I'll take anything Bogie, really, even it if it's Tokyo Joe .
burning 4 revenge Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 you are just whining because you are in a rut right now. You know better than that, to think all men want is sex. Plenty of guys want a girl like you or the girl right next to you to get serious with. You just have not run into one lately i assume. Some men like to **** for fun, some like to get seriously involved. Of course men want more than sex. Men want love and to give love back just as women do They just dont want to love and be loved by old women
JerseyShortie Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 dating is one thing, having random sex with, well, nothing wrong with a guy in his 30's banging a 20 year old girl. Props to the single guy in his 30's who can pull it off. But yea, trying to establish a relationship with that same girl is a little odd. Actually, I find it more creepy for a guy to try to bang a 20 year old girl when he is 30 then him trying to have a relationship with her. At least the guy trying to have the relationship has more respect for her. The first is pretty selfish. you are just whining because you are in a rut right now. You know better than that, to think all men want is sex. Plenty of guys want a girl like you or the girl right next to you to get serious with. You just have not run into one lately i assume. Some men like to **** for fun, some like to get seriously involved. No I am not whining. But that you for degrading my post and calling it whining even though I am expressing my real feelings. Great way to get a girl to listen! NOT!
Citizen Erased Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Of course men want more than sex. Men want love and to give love back just as women do They just dont want to love and be loved by old women You would never be satisfied with an 18 year old b4r.
johan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 It would be great to date a wisdomous 40 year old in a 23 year olds body. I'm not 40 quite yet. And my body is somewhere between 25 and 30. Also I'm pretty wise, but it also kind of depends on the subject.
Citizen Erased Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I'm not 40 quite yet. And my body is somewhere between 25 and 30. Also I'm pretty wise, but it also kind of depends on the subject. It's only polite to ask...but may I eat you? You sound tasty.
johan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 It's only polite to ask...but may I eat you? You sound tasty. A little bitter. A little salty.
burning 4 revenge Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 You would never be satisfied with an 18 year old b4r. I don't know If I were rich it would be kind of fun to play sugar daddy to an evil gold digging teenager who was hot Like she would call me old man and be really disrespectful and cuckhold me in my own home and I would be so enraptured with her Salome charm that I would take it and cry in my bed at night while she used my money to spend on younger men she fancies
Citizen Erased Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 A little bitter. A little salty. And yet just how I like it. I don't know If I were rich it would be kind of fun to play sugar daddy to an evil gold digging teenager who was hot Like she would call me old man and be really disrespectful and cuckhold me in my own home and I would be so enraptured with her Salome charm that I would take it and cry in my bed at night while she used my money to spend on younger men she fancies Oh sweetie, you don't need to get rich and have a young'un, I'll take you. Or am I too old?
chrislovestosurf Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Actually, I find it more creepy for a guy to try to bang a 20 year old girl when he is 30 then him trying to have a relationship with her. At least the guy trying to have the relationship has more respect for her. The first is pretty selfish. No I am not whining. But that you for degrading my post and calling it whining even though I am expressing my real feelings. Great way to get a girl to listen! NOT! Just stop it.. you are acting like the female in the situation isnt looking for the same thing. You come off as being whiney about 'all men.' This is really childish and I doubt you really are childish. I just think you are bitter about something.
Sam Spade Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I don't know If I were rich it would be kind of fun to play sugar daddy to an evil gold digging teenager who was hot Like she would call me old man and be really disrespectful and cuckhold me in my own home and I would be so enraptured with her Salome charm that I would take it and cry in my bed at night while she used my money to spend on younger men she fancies Aye, papi . Bru, u a poet!
RecordProducer Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 How is caring where the guy got his degree from any less superficial than prioritising something other than that . And no, it's not ass. I have a PhD, and my ex had both a PhD and a smoking body. But, I am way happier with my current girlfriend whose undergraduate GPA has been so bad apparently, that she won't tell anybody . She is both younger and saner than many *overeducated children* I've seen!And what makes YOU the man that women dream of? You can be happy with a goat, as far as I'm concerned.
redant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I know when I was 18 I was having fun I had no clue about to have a real relationship so I would say in general a man is immature if he's 30 something with an 18 year old. Pretty stupid too. If he thinks she will be serious. I've dated men 10 yrs older in their 40s and they were immature as well I guess that is why they dated me. But it's whatever makes us happy. Even though we get old wecan still be happy as women. I see alot of old women happily married.
Trialbyfire Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Oh lord...now that smacks of someone who's not educated and got a chip, to deem anyone else as being "over-educated". There's no such thing as being over-educated. If you stop learning, you're stagnant and realistically speaking, boring as hell.
Author gd26 Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Oh wow, this thread has really exploded since I last came on here... Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. I really appreciate the comments. Like I mentioned in my original post, I am not here to be bitter about men dating younger women. I don't particularly like that this is the case, but it is what it is... and I didn't create this topic to debate whether people should date people much younger than them or not. I can't control what other people do... but what I CAN control is who I choose to accept as a partner. That was why I asked this question in the first place... as I genuinely wanted to hear others thought about if there was any validity to my assumptions about men who want younger women to be desiring more power/control over the relationship by having a younger woman who is easier to dominate. People so far have brought up some great points. One guy here mentioned fertility issues to explain why a man in his 30s would prefer a woman in her 20s versus a woman in her 30s. I can see some merit in that point, and that would be a reason for me to hold a less negative view. I can understand that reasoning if someone wants a child. However, others have mentioned men wanting a younger women simply because they want a more sexual creature who is a trophy to show off. That is what concerns me most.... and why I will continue to delete profiles of men who are looking for much younger women, as I am looking for a long-term relationship (leading to marriage) and I don't think these sort of guys can offer me what I'm looking for. It seems a lot of women share my perspective, so I think my concerns have certainly been validated here.
Author gd26 Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 I agree with the OP. It's a turn off seeing a 30 year old man having a dating range 18- to whatever. I also am turned off by men that can't even date their own age or up to their own age. It's kind of like the are rejecting themselves since they are that age. If that man doesn't want to date someone his own age, why should I want to date someone his age? Haha, I think this is my favorite line (or lines) from this entire thread. I hadn't thought about it that way, but that is certainly an interesting perspective which I will remember when I'm shifting through those profiles.
Author gd26 Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 To OP: it's great that you're doing what you think is right. But I would hold off judging someone based upon one small little sentence. For instance, I might interpret it as being open to dating different people regardless of age, afterall, don't you think someone can be mature at 18? Maybe, maybe not. Probably dependent on the person. (not that I think a relationship between a 35 year old and an 18 year old is a good idea most of the time, she is afterall barely legal.) How about a less extreme case, like a 30 year old guy who's open to dating 22 year olds? Good question. There are 2 issues that I brought up in my original post. 1. Men my age or older wanting to date women 18-20, and 2. Men wanting to only date women younger than them (regardless of age). Although I would automatically delete a 30 year old wanting to date an 18 year old, I likely would not immediately discard a 30 year old wanting to date a 22 year old. That's not as extreme. I still think a 22 year old is too young for a 30 year old... but not outrageous. I would be much more comfortable if the same guy prefered women, say 24+, but if he prefers women 22+ I'd probably still give him a chance... just proceed with more caution. HOWEVER, that being said... I'd be much more open to a 30 year old man wanting to date women 22-36, than I would for a 30 year old man wanting to date women 22-28 (or even 22-30). It it were the latter, I would automatically delete his profile... as something about that just makes me uncomfortable. I don't know why exactly... but I leap to some sort of conclusion about the guy being patriarchal etc in only wanting a younger woman. It's like the guy who only wants to date a woman up to his height. A guy who needs to be bigger, taller, older, more educated than his future partner (due to insecurity/control issues)... I don't think I would be compatible with that person. That's what I'm getting at here.
Danger Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I agree with the OP. It's a turn off seeing a 30 year old man having a dating range 18- to whatever. I also am turned off by men that can't even date their own age or up to their own age. It's kind of like the are rejecting themselves since they are that age. If that man doesn't want to date someone his own age, why should I want to date someone his age? All these age threads makes me realize that no matter what you do as a woman, we are fighting a loosing battle because men don't really give a crap about us as people apparently and care more about if we are 18 or not anymore. Is there such a thing as real love or only lust when it comes to men? I guess you men win and we women loose. Hope this makes you men feel happy and more like men because it makes me feel pretty hopeless about finding a turly good man that will think I am goregous and sexy despite getting older, as we all do. I think what is really at play here is the dynamic. Women in their 20's have a lot more power then men in their 20's in regards to relationships. Let's face it, a woman's most attractive years (physically) are her 20's. But a woman's attraction for a man isn't based only on looks. Maturity, education, the "X" factor, and having a strong stable career are very important factors in a woman's attraction to men. The result? Many women in their 20's tend to date older men who exhibit those qualities they find so attractive. Often, in their 20's, men who exhibit these factors do well with women. Fast forward eight to ten years and of course not all of those relationships worked out. There are some women who are left single who are approaching 30 and find few, if any, qualified men in sight. The qualified men they do find, happen to be dating the women in their 20's, because as a general rule they are more attractive. Naturally this would be infuriating that younger women would dip into the limited dating pool of 30's men. Women have their cake when they are in their 20's, they have all of the dating power. Men get it back in their 30's. Both sides exploit this dynamic to some degree.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Huh. I guess I didn't read all THAT much into the age preference thing. I just figured they were casting a wide net and seeing what they came up with. In my mind, it would be akin to a man putting that he was interested in a woman 0'0"-8'0". Does this man have no standards? WTF? LOL I'm more interested in what a man has written in his profile than his stat preferences (hair color, height, age, etc). As long as he matches MY preferences, I don't care.
samiam143 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I'm 21 and my guy just turned 29. I won't date guys younger than me or my age. At that age all they care about is partying. I grew out of that already
samiam143 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 PS Most girls go for older guys for 1 of 2 reasons: They either want a sugar daddy, or just a serious relationship.
GoodOnPaper Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 GD, I would also drag your attention to the education preferences. I've noticed that guys with PhD's don't mind dating a woman who's a high-school dropout (almost), while women don't want to date men who are LESS educated than themselves. All this tells you abouit how superficial guys are. They only care about a hot, young ass. They can be doctors but they don't care if the woman is a nothing, as long as she's hot. And if you have no more than high school in your belt, you might defend it as "unimportant" which I might agree with, as my very best friends don't have college degrees. But the point is that men only care about chemistry in the initial phase. They are not equipped to think about long-term conditions at the beginning. These same men will probably ditch the 18-year old girls as immature after a few months of dating. So, don't write them off. Just accept the differences. They simply don't see things in advance, as you or I do. That's my opinion. I'm surprised this bugs you, considering that you recently bashed doctors and other "clean-cut" professionals for not being passionate, artistic, and unique . . . Even though I have a PhD, it never dawned on me for a second to require my partner to have a graduate degree or be an intellectual. I was looking for an emotional connection, not an academic one. My wife only has a bachelor's degree but she is one of the most emotionally intelligent women I have ever met. No one who saw my wife would ever accuse me of going after a "hot, young ass", but at the same time I wanted to see some feminine qualities at the surface. The women in my graduate program were no different -- they wanted guys with looks and the hot bods and thought those of us in the very same grad. program were too nerdy to date. In terms of short- and long-term thinking, I actually went overboard in the other direction. I thought long-term at the expense of short-term attraction, and it hasn't worked out any better than thinking too short-term does. To say something remotely on topic, I remember one of the women in my grad. program -- she was in her late 20s -- brought her fiance to a party, and he turned out to be in his 60s. Very nice guy and they seemed to be very happy.
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