AlishaR Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 :lmao:I am recently married, 1 year and about 6 months. We have been fighting alot and he has been ignoring the issues and playing world of warcraft all the time!! Im now 24 and hes 23. We got married young, however brought up knowing what it takes to be married and were both in it together. I thought. We have no children. We fight and he leaves and comes back and i try and draw him out, however he doesnt ever wants to talk about it. Now after a short time. He has left me. and is backing living with his parants. I realize how immature he sounds and is acting. Hes isolated himself from everyone thats trying to talk sense into him. Friends... family... everyone. He snapped? To much pressure? I dont want this and am willing to do whatever i can to restore the marriage arrangment. Its been 2 months almost sinse he left. And Im staying away and giving him the space he needs. completely.... no calls, no crying... just going on with life. Waiting...... for something to change? His job is stressful, we have a condo we can barely afford. He took on to much at once and now... hes totally gone off his rocker........ he wants to be separated.... im lost.
Bdaddy145 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 [COLOR=#008000]www.fireproofmymarriage.com/[/COLOR] [COLOR=#008000][/COLOR] [COLOR=#008000]Rent the movie FireProof, you should both watch together eventually.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#008000][/COLOR] Also get the book, "How to save your marriage before it starts" If you both want it it will work.
CaliforniaGirl Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Oh, no. I have a WOWer too. Well, first it was EQ. Then...let me think of the order. I'm not sure I remember. Okay...EQ...then WOW...then City of Heroes...then EQII...then Star Wars Online...then DAOC (which I TRIED like hell to join in on him with since he wanted me to, but WTF, it's the same ****e over and over again!), then LOTR Online. Now he's back to the occasional WOW because he's more tied up in Sim City and something else...I don't know what it is...some aircraft-flying simulation. All this with a healthy (or not) dose of porn sprinkled in... And the funniest part is, now that I'm driven to the comp too for some sort of company in the evenings, he feels justified in saying he's on "because" of me. He must have finally found that wormhole or wrinkle in time, then, since he's been doing this since we married, and I'm sure before, but how would I have known the extent then? We weren't living together. People like this are AVOIDING REALITY. There's nothing wrong with a bit of escapism here and there, it's awesome (that's why we go to the movies, read books, etc...it's natural), but trust me when I tell you, if WOW is coming between your marriage, then this isn't something that's likely to change. It's part of his personality to want to avoid reality as much as possible. I'm so, so sorry to say all this. I do hope it's different for you somehow. This is just what I've seen and what I live (he pays attention to the kids, they go to bed, he hops onto WOW or whatever the hell it is now). He is 38.
You'reasian Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 :lmao:I am recently married, 1 year and about 6 months. We have been fighting alot and he has been ignoring the issues and playing world of warcraft all the time!! Im now 24 and hes 23. We got married young, however brought up knowing what it takes to be married and were both in it together. I thought. We have no children. We fight and he leaves and comes back and i try and draw him out, however he doesnt ever wants to talk about it. Now after a short time. He has left me. and is backing living with his parants. I realize how immature he sounds and is acting. Hes isolated himself from everyone thats trying to talk sense into him. Friends... family... everyone. He snapped? To much pressure? I dont want this and am willing to do whatever i can to restore the marriage arrangment. Its been 2 months almost sinse he left. And Im staying away and giving him the space he needs. completely.... no calls, no crying... just going on with life. Waiting...... for something to change? His job is stressful, we have a condo we can barely afford. He took on to much at once and now... hes totally gone off his rocker........ he wants to be separated.... im lost. That tiger cub is going to vastly outgrow the chihuahua.
Aveenolover Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I wish my ex would have really shown me how serious my problem was, or at least talked to me about it and told me he was thinking about leaving me. i was soo obsessed with wow, id play it 24/7. it was the only thing that was on my mind, and hed get so upset because id choose to play wow over doing stuff with him, which i wish i could go back through time and change, dang it. but it wasnt until i lost him that i saw how bad my problem was. i actually lost him to it before and i had quit wow for a bit but hes like, "oh no no u can play every now and again, just dont play 24/7" well i played everynow and again, and more..and more and yea..im just too obsessive and too competitive...and mixed together those are not good traits to have if u want to play wow.. Anyway, maybe him seeing he is going to lose u will open his eyes. i decided wow screwed up everything and i took it off my comp and threw away all my disks. if he sees this, help him get over the problem. get out of the house and do stuff with him and whatever u do, dont convince him he can play "every now and again" because the full addiction will come back, trust me lol. i know i cant play it at all, just like an alcoholic cant drink casually..
phineas Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I was addicted to WOW also. I was much like everyone else who was addicted to the game. Yes I stopped playing & yes my wife said "you don't have to stop just don't play so much" It got to be more & more. I'd tell her I just need to check my mail or auctions & 3 hrs later she was going to bed & 4 or 5 hrs later so was I. I'd ruin the few nights we had to spend time together. I still play wow, but I have set nights I play with my real life friends. She goes out with her friends on those nights now after work. I sometimes play on the weekend but only when the kids are napping. Otherwise I spend my time with them. I may of screwed it up. we are working on it now.
DaddyO Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I am proud of all the people on this post who were able to admit to their addicting, its not easy. I have never played WOW, however I did play some video games in HS. I haven't really picked up a VGame controller since then. One of my friends (in his mid 20's) sets aside 10 hours a day (on his days off) just to play WOW. I have told him to stop and ask him constantly to go out with me for a beer or play ball, and all I get is "Im busy" (which means, WOW time). It it sad what his life has become. He is bright guy, who chooses to live in his mom's basement and play the video game (talk about the sterotype). What is so addictive about this game?
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