carrots Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I was with my Ex for four years. We broke up 5 months ago and did not communicate at all during this time. He called me three weeks ago and we are trying out friendship. He ended the relationship and I still love him. He knows how I feel and we are taking things slowly. He is in another relationship but it's not a healthy one. I don't want to be the rebound or interfere while he is with her. I think taking things slowly is best, but I don't want to hope for something that may never be. But I have been in a lot of relationships, and I know what I want. I am happy with my life-even if we don't get back together-he is not the source of my happiness, but he does add to it, and I love him more than I can describe. The reason we broke up is that I was needy, immature, and clingy. He was very patient with me and couldn't take it anymore. While I have learned a lot and grown, I fear that it might be too late. I am keeping my distance and letting him contact me. I am living my life and taking care of myself, and have gained a lot of confidence. I want him back but I want to do it right-carefully, slowly, and patiently. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated!
Rose81 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I don't really believe in re-connecting with the ex, but I know it is hard to let go. Maybe you were clingy because he wasn't right for you even though you loved him. I've been in that situation before where I loved the wrong guy. It makes you feel so desperate. You just have to accept it.
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