Meaplus3 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I know people that can hack him, Dont worry about that, Why worry about hacking him? How about talking to him and letting him know that his addiction to wow is destroying your marriage. You need to focus on fixing things between you and him. Does that make sense to you? Mea:)
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Ive tryed playing with him. Ive tried it ALL, TRUST ME! He says im a horrible wife and i agree i didnt always go about things the right way, However.... this isnt the answer to our problems! and yes apparently he was a gamer, i guess...
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 All he says is that he wants out of the marriage THERE IS NO talking sence into him. Get it? I have No Choice! All hes thinking is this game.....
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Even if u can just watch him for a week or so and let me know how often hes on?
phineas Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I know people that can hack him, Dont worry about that, I was hacked by a gold seller. I was down for a whopping 3 or 4 days. I had multiple characters so I just played the ones that wern't deleted or stripped to the bone. it really didn't slow me down much.
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Greymane server... Greymane! there!
Meaplus3 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Ive tryed playing with him. Ive tried it ALL, TRUST ME! He says im a horrible wife and i agree i didnt always go about things the right way, However.... this isnt the answer to our problems! and yes apparently he was a gamer, i guess... Why does he think your a horrible wife? All he says is that he wants out of the marriage THERE IS NO talking sence into him. Get it? I have No Choice! All hes thinking is this game..... Then who can get through to him? How about his family?? Even if u can just watch him for a week or so and let me know how often hes on? I'd love to know what this statement above will accomplish? Mea:)
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 He thinks im a horrible wife cuz i dont want a child i want a husband. His family have not yet realized how serious this is. And hes lieing about playing... i need proof.
Enema Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 You sound pretty mental. How sure are you that he wants out because of the game and not just because he's had enough of the drama?
Meaplus3 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 He thinks im a horrible wife cuz i dont want a child i want a husband. His family have not yet realized how serious this is. And hes lieing about playing... i need proof. You said earlier he moved into his parents basement. I assume this is where he plays the game? If he's at his parents house then why don't you have his family keep an eye on him? There's your proof! Then his parents will know how serious this is and perhaps they can snap him out of it. Mea:)
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 maybe when they notice.... its been 2 months and they seem to be turning a blind eye
Author AlishaR Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Greymane server... Greymane! there!
Els Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Alisha, I empathize with you because I know the desperation that a woman feels when the man she loves prioritizes a game over her. So, this is his character listing: http://www.wowarmory.com/character-sheet.xml?r=Greymane&n=Lewstherin . Do with it what you will, be it stalking or hacking or whatever. I cannot get involved with this though, nor do I have the time to do so. HOWEVER. I really do not think you're going about this the right way. Stalking him and bringing 'proof' isn't going to do anything. You're planning to show his PARENTS that 'proof' and tell them to.. what? Spank him and put him in a corner for being a stupid child? It's going to achieve nothing. Even if they kick him out of their basement, that's the way he IS, and your relationship with him isn't going to get any better that way. Just curious, if you already knew he was like this before you got married why did you get married anyway?
phineas Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Nice gear. Lots of PVP rewards. This guy has put a good amount of time into the game.
nadya Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Get out while u can!!!i have been through it.that game has powers.u need to make him stop playing now.please listen to me.it will make you crazy.he will loose himself and u,plus dont think its better for him to play than to go out,he can still 'pick up someone else' or whatever.please u need to get rid of that fcking game!!!!!!!!!!
Nikki Sahagin Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 He sounds like a big child. Lots of adults can enjoy video games but I don't know many adults who have marriages, relationships, families, jobs or hobbies, who have the time to play ANY game THAT excessively. I could imagine a 40 year old guy living in a basement playing video games as a substitute for socialisation but a man with a wife, presumably friends and a job REALLY shouldn't spend that much time on a video game. I can only draw a few conclusions. 1. Something big is going on in your marriage and he uses the game as escapism. Have you ever ignored him, not listened to him, cheated on him? If it's nothing you've done, then perhaps (sorry if it sounds harsh) he is bored of married life? You need to ask him WHY he plays the game, or WHY he prefers to play it OVER doing things with you? You may get some interesting answers.... 2. He genuinely is addicted to the game and can't break the cycle. 3. He isn't ready to be in a relationship let alone a marriage. Truly don't get why people get married and let themselves go... But you NEED to talk to him. If he is being this selfish, no amount of selflessness on your part will change him. You need his co-operation. Tell him how this is making you feel.
thelostsoul89 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 This game is indeed very addictive, but it doesnt seem that hes leaving you for a "video game". There is obviously a much bigger problem in your relationship. It might be true that hes covering up the problems by playing a game all day. I am very addicted to this game, my boyfriend used to hate it untill I got him to play:cool: I really dont think you should try to hack him or ruin his character, that will make him furious. He wont want to be with you at all. You two need to actually talk about what is really wrong. If he wont answer the phone or call then why dont you just drop by his parents house??? He is not the only one being immature about this if you havent tried to confront him about the real issues in your marrige.
Nikki Sahagin Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Also you haven't really explained much or given much background info. Apparantly he just prefers the game to you. So how old were you when you got married? How long for? Any other problems come up since i.e. cheating, neglect, arguing etc. Did he always play the game or only recently, and did he always play AS much? Also do you 2 not talk? You don't seem to? As in you confronted him and he simply left?
Author AlishaR Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 Thanks, ALOT , I didnt know.... trust me!
Nikki Sahagin Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Thanks, ALOT , I didnt know.... trust me! Can you answer any of my questions? It will help everyone hear give you more information.
Author AlishaR Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 How do i tell how much time he plays on it?
Els Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I thought I recall you saying 40 hours/week, Alisha? Off-topic: Phineas, honestly that doesn't look like the character of a man who plays so very much. This guy hasn't even cleared a quarter of the current raids, and his pvp rating is pretty much average. It's possible, especially with the current casual policy of the latest expansion, to actually live life and yet play well, too -- he doesn't seem to know how to do it. His fault, not so much the game's. I've cleared all current content (up to the hardest mode) with my main character, putting in just 10 hours/week or so on it. Would post my armory to prove it but that'd just sound too nerd-ish on such a forum as this. The other 10 hours involves just messing around other characters with my LDR SO, kills two birds with one stone.
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