SoulSearch_CO Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 But, she lives in practically a one-stoplight town, and I mentioned, "Well, considering where you live, you really can't afford to be picky, lol" :lmao: LMFAO - touche!
fishtaco Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I think online many women might just want attention, or since they get so many emails, are holding out for someone out of their league. Think about it. What if you got 100 emails a day from women basically offering sex/taking you out/wanting to date you. Very interesting. I think that's a really good point. I still haven't figured out online dating, other than that I seem to do much better meeting women in real life. But what you said makes a lot of sense. Back to the topic. Bells, I would look at this situation the other way around. Not as in why is she not considering you over something like horses. But rather would you want to date someone like that? I know I wouldn't. Have you tried hitting up on women in real life? Going out and socializing? I find that much more rewarding. Even if nothing happens, flirting with some girl you met at the bar is more fun than reading profiles and typing out messages. And I noticed Shygirl really hates you. I don't know the history, I don't want to get involved, simply making an observation.
Shygirl15 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 And I noticed Shygirl really hates you. I don't know the history, I don't want to get involved, simply making an observation. You mean Bells? Nah, he's actually a very good friend of mine.
peteyj Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Hobbies may be deal breakers and they may not be. As others said if she's passionate about horses and you just come off as not really caring, that might be a deal breaker. I have a lot of hobbies that involve adventure, and taking tons of risks..aka jumping out of an airplane or diving for sharks, hiking for days by myself, etc...But many people, friends and/or ex's, these hobbies or activities were or are so far from something they are into or far too scary for them that it's not a deal breaker. I'd assume most people aren't that daring. If I found somebody that was, great, if not who cares. But if they start talking to me like it's just some stupid hobby, I'd probably walk the other way. It's one thing not to be into the same things, it's another for them to think a hobby or activity I'm passionate about is not that interesting, stupid, or pointless. But saying all that I'm also into staying fit and working out. I mean 6-7 days a week with weights, running, swimming, etc. A person who would rather stay at home most of the time would be a deal breaker to me. I hate sitting or not doing anything. I always have to be doing something. So a person who isn't into the same things as me but likes to get out of the house often and stays in shape would be fine. A person who isn't into the same things as me and would rather spend the weekend watching tv would be the worst possible person to be involved with for me. So it depends. Obviously something you said about horses or riding came off as uninterested or uncaring. And if she's passionate about it then it's a deal breaker. Nobody is going to like everything another person does, but there has to be some interest in understanding where they are coming from. I don't know what you said but it seems you probably brushed off her hobbies as pointless. As you stated, you wouldn't mind a girl who spoke 'nerdy' to you. Well maybe this girl is looking for a guy who could ride all day and talk about horses all day to her. I have a friend who is extremely passionate about horses, rides them all the time, cares for them, etc. Anybody who just thinks horses are some casual, who cares activity, probably wouldn't make a very good partner.
cat-power Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Well....I have horses myself, and no, I don't (and never have) the need for a bf with the same passion...BUT what I do want is for him to understand my passion. I will not complain about him being off to football all sunday or saturdat, or wanting to watch all about it on tv. Horses, as opposed to other hobbies, come with a lot of responsibility and are time and money -consuming. Which doesn't mean I wont make time for a SO... But this person must at least not have a "dislike" or phobia about animals (or hairs ) Most girls have a "horse phase" when 9-14 yrs old, most of them give up in puberty, when boys are discoverd ! and some of us never grow out of it unfortunately....and develop a virus for life;) 2 of my horses i've owned for more than 22 years (i'm 37) so they're a big part of my life. That's no competition for any guy if he's going to tell me to give them up then they're going to be very dissapointed. So yes to some people they're a way of life, but that doesn't mean we can't fit anyone else in !
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