Knight_Ctrl Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Im going to be honest. Recently I've been avoiding sleep as much as possible. EVERY time I've gone to sleep I've either dreamed about my ex, and more frequently recently her new guy. Most of the time its a dream about him pissing me off or I try to kick his ass or something. I haven't had any contact with either of them (except for running into them at the theaters a few weeks ago). When I have these dreams they wake me up, then I'm just upset all over again. I'm not going to do anything dumb like contact her or him or seek him out and destroy him...none of that would gain me anything...I just want these thoughts to stop, I can hold them off alright until I go to sleep....
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Try a over the counter sleeping pill but please be careful and only take them as directed if it works you will be so deep asleep you will last Thu out the night with out waking up or dreaming once...
GoneButNotForgotten Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I know exactly how you feel knight. I thought I was getting to the point where I was moved on. Then starting about a week ago I have had a dream about her every night. Well avoiding sleep doesn't work. The over the counter sleeping pills are usually just diphenhydramine. It is an antihistamine that tends to make people drowsy. It really didn't help me get through the night. It can help you fall asleep but doesn't really keep you that way. I know what your going through man and it sucks. I just try and push it out of my head as fast as I can. Usually I'll fire up an episode of family guy or something if I can't clear my head fast enough. It helps to watch things that are dumb and funny.
openbook08 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I know exactly how you feel knight. I thought I was getting to the point where I was moved on. Then starting about a week ago I have had a dream about her every night. this must be common as it has been happenin to me a lot lately too.
huck Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Yep - been there too.. dream mostly about the ex sleeping with new guys. It sucks big style. Also if you lived with the ex - its horrid getting used to the fact they are no longer sleeping in the same bed and they are not there when you wake up...
chrissreef Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 3 months and counting of waking up 2-3 times a night. Sometimes thinking about "him" sometimes about her. "Also if you lived with the ex - its horrid getting used to the fact they are no longer sleeping in the same bed and they are not there when you wake up... " yup! Was like that for the first two months. I thought I was finally getting better this weekend, then today she sent me an email telling me she's sending some money she owes me... and now I'm stuck thinking about her all fing day again! I wish I could hurt the guy, but he's 9 yrs older, taller and a body building/boxing personal trainer...
Excellent Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I have come pretty far in healing now. I can talk with my ex at work without feeling uncomfortable now. Sure, there is still some left, but nothing i can't manage to supress. But last night i had a dream about her. Where she came up to me and gave me a hug. And it was so realistic, i could smell her, feel her. And during that hug i woke up. And that opened up a little well of tears. It only took me a few minutes to pull myself together again, but yeah, for a few minutes there, i was so depressed. It didn't affect me at work today tho, and when i think about it, it was actually a very nice dream. It's ok to have something like that sometimes, just not too often. And this is only the 2nd or 3rd time i dream about her after the break. I have chosen to cherish what we had, and not thinking about what we could have had. And it has helped very much in the process of moving on. But it's nice to vent from time to time, through a forum, or through a dream in my case.
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