nice_guy447 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Hey all, This one is for girls to answer: I am 19, and have had a couple girlfriends in the past. All have been good looking, and I considered myself to be very good with girls throughout my high school years. I hung out with the "cool" group, had alot of friends, and never needed advice with girls. Well now I'm off to college, and ever since I broke up with my ex, things just havent been the same. I started just hanging out with my buddies, getting drunk and just being a normal high school senior. We all had so much fun, that I never really thought about a relationship at all. I am almost done with my freshmen year in college, and I still havent had a relationship since my junior year in h.s.. I consider myself shy around girls now. For some reason I seem to think that being a shy, conservative guy would appeal to girls, but my last 2 years have proved otherwise. I am a division 1 athlete at my school, and still dont seem to do well with the ladies. I consider myself a good looking guy, by the way, but the question is this: Do girls actually like to be pestered? I have friends who just go out and bug the hell out of girls, and they always get what they want. It seems to me that outgoing guys would be unatractive, but what is the truth? How should I act around a girl that I would like to meet at a party? Any advice would be great, as I seem to have lost my "touch" with the ladies. Thanks a ton to everyone who helps!
Benique Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Hey all, This one is for girls to answer: I am 19, and have had a couple girlfriends in the past. All have been good looking, and I considered myself to be very good with girls throughout my high school years. I hung out with the "cool" group, had alot of friends, and never needed advice with girls. Well now I'm off to college, and ever since I broke up with my ex, things just havent been the same. I started just hanging out with my buddies, getting drunk and just being a normal high school senior. We all had so much fun, that I never really thought about a relationship at all. I am almost done with my freshmen year in college, and I still havent had a relationship since my junior year in h.s.. I consider myself shy around girls now. For some reason I seem to think that being a shy, conservative guy would appeal to girls, but my last 2 years have proved otherwise. I am a division 1 athlete at my school, and still dont seem to do well with the ladies. I consider myself a good looking guy, by the way, but the question is this: Do girls actually like to be pestered? I have friends who just go out and bug the hell out of girls, and they always get what they want. It seems to me that outgoing guys would be unatractive, but what is the truth? How should I act around a girl that I would like to meet at a party? Any advice would be great, as I seem to have lost my "touch" with the ladies. Thanks a ton to everyone who helps! When you come to a party , Stay serious,make some mysterious glance in your eyes , look around,but do not stare at any definite girl . After an hour approach the girl(s) you want to hunt down and ask her to (drink a glass of * with you) (to dance) (to go out to the fresh air and walk a bit) . It depends on the situation what would be the best to ask her to do . And remember , the stud that "bugs the hell out of girls" is never wanted :cool:and desired by any particular girl (telling you this considering that you prefer to make a gf and not just a "group" of girls who have someone to date always,and this someone is never you ... ) Girls love those who are not even a bit alike a public stud.They need their studs to be such just in their own bedrooms :love:
loveslife Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I've always really appreciated it when a guy is upfront with me, not making me guess about his feelings or what he wants. However, there's a difference between being upfront and pouncing on a girl. Also, how do you really know what you want the first time you see a girl? You need to get to know someone first. Come on, we all know that the first thing that attracts us is physical. It's just a matter of what you do with that. I agree with the person who said you should spend some time checking out the girls, making eye contact, being a bit mysterious. But then be sweet, charming and upfront with the one you like best. And just take it as it comes. Don't go overboard and don't be too mysterious. Be yourself.
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