Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Yea, it is certainly difficult to read. I would had thought after the talk, lol, it would open her up. It did get her to come to the home, but nothing else. As I said before, its a damn shame.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 You don't think she could have a older kid she didn't tell you about? living back at her house. Maybe she thought once you got to know her better she would tell you cause it wouldn't matter then? I know its far fetched but if you don't think theres another man then I dunno past that...
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Nah, she's just going to school. No man or kid. She's just not leveling with me.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 You don't think she could have a older kid she didn't tell you about? living back at her house. Maybe she thought once you got to know her better she would tell you cause it wouldn't matter then? I know its far fetched but if you don't think theres another man then I dunno past that... No not far fetched I thought that too actually, I meant to post it. A kid is possible but that would be really big. Lying about having a child could potentially really turn a guy off.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 No not far fetched I thought that too actually, I meant to post it. A kid is possible but that would be really big. Lying about having a child could potentially really turn a guy off. How about not telling a guy your full name, address or e-mail address? I have been in slow relationships, but this one is tops. Even the one before let me feel stuff. LOL.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I am trying really hard to picture myself being asked those things and just cannot even imagine what I could possibly say to avoid the question!?!? No? Just a flat out no? That would be so odd. You should say that to her, "at least let me feel stuff"
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 You should say that to her, "at least let me feel stuff" How could he threw her steel reinforced graphite Chasity belt with the super secret pass word lol... Sorry prob not the best time...
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Rather not make fun of her. Not the cool thing to do. Maybe she had been hurt before. Nonetheless, its been a month, and I had not gone anywhere. I stopped calling her last week, thought she may get the picture. Nope. Hoping she would open up when she called today. Nope. Coulda been something. In the meantime. Moving on. If she decides to open up, maybe we can do something again. Until then, Moving on to the next datee. I think I am too nice. That maybe the problem.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I knew something was funny with this girl from day one. I told you something was amiss by her not telling you personal information about herself but you kept brushing it off. my advice is to tell her to loose your number, life is too short for bull****!
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Really weird I tell ya Chrome. Even before we meant, and we talked for like twelve hours over three days, she tells me she hopes this works out. If I were a line, ______________, she would be playing both ends and not moving at all in the middle.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Really weird I tell ya Chrome. Even before we meant, and we talked for like twelve hours over three days, she tells me she hopes this works out. If I were a line, ______________, she would be playing both ends and not moving at all in the middle. I wouldnt have trusted her she sounds like a serial killer to me, or a female with something to hide like maybe she was married or didnt want to be stalked but if I date I have no problems telling a girl what she wants to know. Red flags!!!
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Very true, but never told her really anything personal. But, she is hiding something. not sure what. It does make me wonder it is SO SECRET. Maybe she's CIA?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I am trying really hard to picture myself being asked those things and just cannot even imagine what I could possibly say to avoid the question!?!? No? Just a flat out no? That would be so odd. You should say that to her, "at least let me feel stuff" Sorry I blame pollywag for putting such ideas in my head! Anyways CIA? for real... Na but it dose make you wonder if she had been hurt before to that extent why get in the car with you or offer to go to your place? I don't think the answer was that inocent...
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Again, makes no sense. If she was afraid of me for being a Stalker, LOL, why would she go into my car twice? Why offer to come over? There is something definitely more to this. I think I am going to change what I want to say to her. Probably something like this. Listen. It is just not working out that why I would like. It may be good for you, but it is not working for me. Your choice. Open up or we'll just have to go our separate ways. I would prefer you open up and let me in, but if you do not want to. No issues. You have yourself a good life then. Thats more of my style.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 ...the only thing i could think of is that she's in a relationship with someone and she was looking for you to meet her needs.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 In a relationship but spend Saturday nights with me? Speak to me during the week at all hours during the night and morning. Some relationship. I guess I will know something when she brings up this weekend. Have I said damn shame?
Author ruggy Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 So, as an update. We are officially seeing each-other, according to her. She told me this as she was telling us (me and her) to other people I have heard from. So she wants to come over, either during the week and/or on the weekend cause we do not see much of each-other. This would be a first for me where a woman is so interested in coming over. Any advice on how I should proceed on this step?
GorillaTheater Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 She told me this as she was telling us (me and her) to other people I have heard from. This secrecy thing is pretty damn bizarre to me, and I'm assuming she still hasn't shared her last name, etc. But if you know people in common, why can't you get a little more info on her from them? Me, I'd be curious enough to let her come over, but I'd tell her while she was over that you're at a point where she needs to open up, starting now, and if she can't then this relationship has become a bit too ridiculous to continue.
GorillaTheater Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 But if you know people in common, why can't you get a little more info on her from them? Let me amend that by saying that I understand that it's not about the information itself so much as it's the fact that SHE won't tell you.
Stockalone Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 So, as an update. We are officially seeing each-other, according to her. She told me this as she was telling us (me and her) to other people I have heard from. So she wants to come over, either during the week and/or on the weekend cause we do not see much of each-other. This would be a first for me where a woman is so interested in coming over. Any advice on how I should proceed on this step? Since serial killer and CIA have been mentioned, why not try to keep a less negative outlook. Maybe her family is very wealthy and she isn't telling you more about herself before she is sure that you like and want her for who she is as a person without the family wealth influencing you. I absolutely understand the frustration about her secrecy, but as long as you like her and still trust her, why not give her the benefit of the doubt? If you are just fed up with her behaviour, then explain that to her and how her secrecy makes you uncomfortable. And having her come over on the weekend for a movie and maybe cooking dinner together should give you the opportunity to bring up your concerns in a non-threatening environment.
moman Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Come on she could just give a general area, not even a street address. What about living near the 150th and Broadway subway stop or something? As far as last name, that's a more bizarre one. I prefer not to share my name with women i just met, although I would if it was Smith or something common like that. Also, it's really wierd that you haven't gotten anywhere with her but you are seeing each other and she's telling friends about you.
prettybaby Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Also, it's really wierd that you haven't gotten anywhere with her but you are seeing each other and she's telling friends about you. Exactly. That's the part that weirds me out the most. Who the hell does that?
Author ruggy Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 Yes, I completely agree. However, I am trying not to judge. I know what town she lives in, lol. But, yes, wanting to come over and not telling me her address or last name is particular. She is definitely hiding something, no doubt about that. I was thinking, maybe this would get her to open up. but to come to a man's house but not tell your address or last name. Weird. Maybe her skeletons in her closet are worst than mine. lol. If this was conspiracy theory, I would then agree with my CIA or NSA thoughts. Though, she does want to work with the Secret Service.....
pollywag Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Hey Ruggy I just read your update. So she says you guys are officially seeing each other but whaddup with the homefront situation for her? Has she talked to you about that yet? Are you getting caught up in the bells and whistles?
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