ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 So this woman I am seeing suggests we should rent some movies and come on over this coming weekend. Let alone, she wants my address but will not give hers up or, again, last name. Weird don't you all think? It is really hard to understand her motives.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Are you seeing her on your computer or actually physically dating her?
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 huh? Why would you ask a question like that?
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Because your opening post isn't clear if you have met her in person yet or this is an online relationship, that's why.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Ahh, thought you read my previous posts. They're famous. Saw her twice. Speak daily. Well, she calls me daily. I call her back usually. We spoke for about three hours or so today. Only peeve I have on her is she will not tell me her name or address, but wants my address. She already has my name.
CandyGirlXO Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Her not telling you her last name I think is very very strange. I just don't understand.
2sunny Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Ahh, thought you read my previous posts. They're famous. Saw her twice. Speak daily. Well, she calls me daily. I call her back usually. We spoke for about three hours or so today. Only peeve I have on her is she will not tell me her name or address, but wants my address. She already has my name. SAW her twice? still doesn't indicate if you met her in real life. i can SEE you on the computer if i do video cam... if you did meet face to face... why didn't you pick her up for a date? geeez, don't tell me guys don't pick the gal up at her house anymore for a real date. get specific! also, WHY don't YOU call her? why must she call you - then you only call her back after she leaves a message... is this some sort of sick and twisted game? i don't get why you would think all this game playing is supposed to be considered dating a gal... or is it that you don't intend to make any effort for her? if i don't tell my name or where i live - it's because i have my guard up and think you may be a stalker type of guy... or some need to protect myself for some reason. maybe that's why she won't tell.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 No sorry I was not familiar with your past stories. Thanks for explaining. Do you not have call display? Doesn't her last name show up when she calls you? This is really odd I have never heard of anyone doing something like this. The only thing I could think of is she is either already involved, or she is sizing you up for finances and wants to see how you life before she decides if she wants to be more involved with you. But either way it's bananas. She sounds very strange.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Yea, its weird, I agree. I've offered to pick her up both times. She preferred to meet up. When she calls, it shows up as unavailable unless its her cell. I call her once and a while, but she usually calls me. No games candy. Games are more such as she does not want to give me her last name or address, but is willing to come over to my house. I've been backing off a bit as I do not understand why. She did say she was new to online dating. Not sure. She is also very select in what she says about her family. Does not all add up.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 if i don't tell my name or where i live - it's because i have my guard up and think you may be a stalker type of guy... or some need to protect myself for some reason. maybe that's why she won't tell. Yeah but if she thinks he is a stalker why would she invite herself over to his house?
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Yea, its weird, I agree. I've offered to pick her up both times. She preferred to meet up. When she calls, it shows up as unavailable unless its her cell. I call her once and a while, but she usually calls me. No games candy. Games are more such as she does not want to give me her last name or address, but is willing to come over to my house. I've been backing off a bit as I do not understand why. She did say she was new to online dating. Not sure. She is also very select in what she says about her family. Does not all add up. Is she ethnic? Maybe she is not allowed to date outside her race/religion and lives with her parents? What reason does she give when you ask her for her name besides "no" ?
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Lives with parents, but is alone right now. They are traveling. She's Caucasian. Both the same religion.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 You sure it's parents and not a man? How old is she? And you said you call her at home sometimes? Do a reverse phone look up.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 OK, so how about when she shows up at your house, you comment on the irony of the address thing while you're hanging out and things are relaxed. I like to joke around, so it would definitely come up in conversation. Maybe ask her why she guards it so closely.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Im sorry but she sounds like she is already with a man, or extremely embarassed of her family. Where do you drop her off after your dates? sorry for all the questions this is just so odd
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Hey Soul, Yea, I bring it up and she just says she doesn't want too. I usually have a woman's surname (and address) before her inviting herself over. She say's (again today) she really likes me. So, I am at a loss. Very strange all of the secrecy on a damn name. LOL.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 I asked her, she said there is no one else. Why be on a dating site, speak to me 20 - 60 mins a day, etc. Go out with me on Saturday's etc. Why invite herself over for dinner and movies if she's with someone else. She goes to Columbia University for her masters in Education right now. She does not seem like the women who would/could do something like this. And why? The attention? How so? She's calling me? Maybe I should say to her I need to be let in a little bit more on your (her) life before you (her) come over? Maybe, let's say, your surname. Might be tough and the reaction could be awkward.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 "She just doesn't want to." I think at this point I'd start losing interest in her if I were you. This is getting downright ridiculous. But I'd stop initiating any of the contact or dates if I were you. She's being silly.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Ok so she checks out in terms of not being involved with someone else. So then you should definitely just talk to her and let her know that it's bothering you that she is being so secretive about her name and where she lives and you don't see what the purpose if this is. Listen to your insincts on this one something is off. If you are going to allow her into your life she should reciprocate. She is definitely hiding something, I'll tell you that much.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Yea, I hear you both. I have already started dating others and keeping her on the back burner. When she brings it up, coming over this weekend, I'll just say its not working out or something. You are just too closed off for me. When you decide to open up or you really want to pursue something, let me know. Damn shame.
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Yea, I hear you both. I have already started dating others and keeping her on the back burner. When she brings it up, coming over this weekend, I'll just say its not working out or something. You are just too closed off for me. When you decide to open up or you really want to pursue something, let me know. Damn shame. Well wait if you feel bad about breaking it off don't be so final try to talk to her about it first, tell her you like her and are enjoying dating here but that you definitely don't think it's apropriate for her to come over considering you don't really know who she is or where she lives. See what she says to that and then if she insists on being closed off that is when I would say it is not working out.
Author ruggy Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 Yea, we did that last week. It was like pulling teeth in learning what her true feelings were about me. Now she reiterates it each time she calls me. Yet, still nothing on the other stuff. She's hiding something, just do not know what. Could also say, let's wait on the next date. When you feel opened enough to be comfortable to tell me simple things about you, we can resume where we left off. A bit nicer though.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 She is 34. Only have her cell. That is not good I was under the impression you at least had her home # for the amount you guys talked. Just having a cell only would put me off in itself past the 1st few meetings.. I'm glad to see your at least dating others at this point shes hiding something its plain as day. If shes now willing to hang out at your place then shes not afraid of you in any way obversely. Dam I was hoping I was wrong all along sorry ruggy...
pollywag Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Could also say, let's wait on the next date. When you feel opened enough to be comfortable to tell me simple things about you, we can resume where we left off. A bit nicer though. I think that sounds nice enough. I have a feeling she is hiding something that she might be embarassed about, who knows...sometimes people lie for the weirdest reasons that are not necessarily harmful to the other person sometimes you just have to build trust find out what it is. But I would definitely put my foot down to not proceed until she is willing to open up, that I would not let slide. So no comming over to your house until you know WHO is actually coming over.
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