D-Lish Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Do you ever find that when you are trying to forget about something, that random crap comes at you from all angles to remind you of your loss? I broke up with someone around x-mas- I'm still feeling the sting from it, but handling it pretty well for the most part. BUT- it seems on a daily basis, random reminders just show up in front of my path. Okay- he was Irish, so St Paddy's Day was unavoidable, Leprechans and clovers are freakin everywhere. But I'll see his last name "jerkoff" shipping, painting, movers, etc on the side of trucks, or all of a sudden his first name which is obscure to begin with starts popping up on TV all over the place. I even met a dude in Florida just after the break up with the same name (trust me- a very obscure name).... Even here on LS- I looked to the side and there was some ad with a Leprechan on it adverstising Irish chat forums.... I swear, every day something out of the ordinary pops up and jumps in front of my face. These things weren't popping up when we were dating... because I would have noticed that too! The first drink the instructor had us make in my bartending class was an "Irish car Bomb".... I got a call from my instructor this morning telling me about a job opening at a bar directly beside the bar my ex works at..... What are the chances of that??? There are 16,000 bars in the area???? Out of the 30 some people in my class, my instructor thinks of me for the job opening? I think the Universe has a dark sense of humour. I never hear anything about the Scottish.... But I bet if a Scot broke my heart I'd start seeing Kilts and bagpipes everywhere.
runner Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 oh yes, i know exactly what you mean here. ironically, just as i clicked on this thread, damien rice was on: " i can't take my mind off of you, till i find somebody... "
monkeymaid Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 watch the movie 23. ...if your mind is fixated on somthing, youe will find it anywherewhether you are looking for it or not. ...i went throught theexactsamething about 7 years ago where i saw her last name on kitche appliances, trucks, at the mall, like 3 moviestocomeout back toback, her first name was every where and because it was boys name, thefirst friend i made had the same name as her. ..so yeah, the world does have a twisted sense of humor, but it is still a sense of humor, and therfore should be laughed at. stay up! and smile
Hi.P.O'Crit Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Oh yeah. After an ex broke up with me I stayed away from women for about 4 months. The first 4 or 5 women I talked to had variations of her first and middle names. Felt like someone pouring lemon juice in an open wound.
Author D-Lish Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 watch the movie 23. ...if your mind is fixated on somthing, youe will find it anywherewhether you are looking for it or not. ...i went throught theexactsamething about 7 years ago where i saw her last name on kitche appliances, trucks, at the mall, like 3 moviestocomeout back toback, her first name was every where and because it was boys name, thefirst friend i made had the same name as her. ..so yeah, the world does have a twisted sense of humor, but it is still a sense of humor, and therfore should be laughed at. stay up! and smile But I think about winning the lotto everyday, all day.... and it never happens. I think about having sex with Matt Damon all the time.... and it never happens (well only that one time). Pisses me off- The irish are everywhere at the moment.
melissa123 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Hey Dlish! couldnt agree with you more here! Yesterday I came home after a long day and sat down on the couch ready to watch the news .... and what do you no there is a story about my ex and his new gf on the freaken news!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It hurt so much I swear I almost died! Sigh
sedgwick Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 and what do you no there is a story about my ex and his new gf on the freaken news!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What did they do?!? Rob a bank?
Author D-Lish Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Hey Dlish! couldnt agree with you more here! Yesterday I came home after a long day and sat down on the couch ready to watch the news .... and what do you no there is a story about my ex and his new gf on the freaken news!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It hurt so much I swear I almost died! Sigh How did that happen? My ex bf from college is a reporter- and I see him on the news all the time (he's still funny looking). But- how did your bf and ex end up on the news together?
kizik Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 D-Lish, I agree about things popping up that we are trying to forget. However, whenever we are "trying to forget" something, it is inherently at the forefront of our minds! How's that for irony? It's kind of like when you learn a new word or concept. As soon as you are made aware of its existence, you notice it everywhere. Whereas before you would have subconsciously ignored it, due to lack of understanding, now it is prominent and imminent everywhere. So I don't think that the Universe is being particularly cruel; more like, you are trying to focus on something besides the Irish guy - but by trying NOT to focus on him, you DO - which leads to observations of things that, of course, remind you of him. Solution? Try not to think OR NOT think about him. Neutrality. Indifference.
Hersheys Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I think it's part of the getting over process. When we meet someone we kind of get a glimpse of their 'world'. What used to be nothing to us suddenly becomes familiar and meaningful. Before we met our exes, the 'reminders' have always been there, they are just not in our awareness yet. It annoys me too when that happens because it give me a momentary hope that maybe the universe is telling me that my ex will probably come back, it's coming up but then I go home and reality sets in, I check my phone, email, aim for messages, I wait all day and night and nothing. I agree with Kizik, try to be indifferent. Try to go back to that time before you met your ex when all these reminders of him didn't mean anything to you.
FairyTale73 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 It is a common "problem" among all lovers . Everything will remind you about him till you concentrate on all little things seeking him ,seeking him,seeking him ..
not_a_happy_camper Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 oh yes, i know exactly what you mean here. ironically, just as i clicked on this thread, damien rice was on: " i can't take my mind off of you, till i find somebody... " Sick sense of humour is right...................I hate to point this out, but the first person to reply to your post is also Irish! Kinda funny!
Nikki Sahagin Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 That is pretty bizare... But it is also true of course that everything will remind you of him anyway. It's kind of like when you look for signs something is meant to be. I remember whenever I was with my boyfriend, we would see things in the shape of hearts. He had a nosebleed once and the blood on the bed made a PERFECT heart, we found a heartshaped crisp, heart-shaped leaves.....probably me reading too much into it, but constantly heart-shapes in random things....was weird...
Star Gazer Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 The guy I dated before my current BF is Irish too. As Irish as they get. But I really don't attribute Irish things to my memories of him (and I have the same experiences as you in that regard). In this instance, I don't think the Universe has a sick sense of humor, D. I think you're holding on to your feelings for him, and looking for a reason to reach out....?
famke Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 girl, I know what you mean!! my ex-boyfriend is irish too.. and I had the exact same thing like you have! I live in holland, and you don't really have many irish/english people living here. I mean: it's not like you hear about them a lot. after my breakup with my ex.. everything reminded my about him..and especially ireland. Everyone around me started talking about irish music, everybody wanted to go to ireland.. My friends wanted to go to irish pubs. I was thinking: what the hell is so great about that stupid country (no offense people) I started to hate my ex even more.. and his country too. I know that it makes no sense. but that was the only way I could cope with it!
Ariadne Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 It always happens that way. When I was pregnant I thought that everyone had decided to get pregnant. I used to see Colorado licenses all over the place too. Have you heard from him lately? Is he still travelling?
Art_Critic Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Dlish, It isn't a sick sense of humor.. those things have always existed. They are not reminders placed there for you to be reminded of him Have you ever noticed that when you buy a brand new car all of a sudden you notice how many of them are on the road.. the same ones.. before you never gave it a second thought and now since you own one they are everywhere. Same thing... It is time to get something new on your mind instead of the old guy.. time to replace the old memories with some new ones.. Time to go buy another new car
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