saddy Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I'm new in dating, I met a few girls and finally met one that corresponds (almost) exactly to what I'm looking for: smart, highly attractive, dynamic... I've been on 5 or 6 dates with her. She had been asking me if I was dating other girls, which made me think she was really interested in me. As a result, I prefered to stop dating other girls. I also noticed that she hadn't checked her online profile since a few days: I felt quite confident about this relationship. This weekend, she came to my place and we almost made out (it looks like she's afraid of sex or so). She asked me lots of questions about my previous experiences, how many girls I had sex with, when was my last relationship, etc... I asked her back and discovered she was dating someone else! Nothing serious she said... then why the hell is she dating him? She also seemed highly interested in making sure that I wasn't dating other girls... I thought: ok, if it's so important to her, then she'll probably stop dating other people as well. We finally spent the night together and I thought it was great... until today when I discovered that she's been checking her online profile again! What does it mean after all the questions she's been asking me? I don't want to look desperate by asking her to close her to stop dating but on the other hand seeing this is kinda painful. Moreover, as I said, I don't have so much dating experience... obviously much less than her. For this reason I feel like she has an ascendant over me. I don't know what to do... I think I should try to date other people, that would probably give me more confidence. Else I'm afraid she's gonna play with me before letting me down...
tkgirl Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 ah, the joys of online dating! too much can be read into every little thing.. because you met thru a "computer" but eventually you need to start communicating in the real world! anyways.. my advice to you would be to realize you two are just "dating"... having fun, getting to know each other etc. Do you really want be "exclusive" with her? Seems like it's a little too soon... but if you do then you need to man up and tell her how you feel. Until then... if she agrees to be exclusive... then she can keep her profile up and date whoever she wants... and so can you!
samiam143 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 ah, the joys of online dating! too much can be read into every little thing.. because you met thru a "computer" but eventually you need to start communicating in the real world! anyways.. my advice to you would be to realize you two are just "dating"... having fun, getting to know each other etc. Do you really want be "exclusive" with her? Seems like it's a little too soon... but if you do then you need to man up and tell her how you feel. Until then... if she agrees to be exclusive... then she can keep her profile up and date whoever she wants... and so can you! yep yep! If she isn't ready for something exclusive then feel free to date around. If she can do it so can you!
shockandawed Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 This is where online dating can be a real trick. There is a possibility she is checking hers to see if you are checking yours. Since she keeps bringing it up and asking you, I sense this may be the case. You have to remember the ball is in your court right now. If you are ready to be exclusive, then fine, have the talk with her. If you aren't, then continue dating around and checking your profile. Just remember, she is justified in doing the same. Once you decide to be exclusive, then by all means remove the profiles.
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