ilovefreshair Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I feel like I'm going crazy and could really use a different perspective on this whole thing, so here goes. I met this guy at work (mind you as of yesterday we are no longer co-workers, seasonal job) and there was an immediate attraction but I had no idea his status and barely knew him at that point. I found out that he would be my evaluator for a 4 day long course and of course I was excited to spend the time with him and get to know him better. We ended up getting to know each other very well, chatting a ton and really enjoying each others company. He even noticed my anxiety at one point and managed to strike up a random conversation and effectively calm me down. A guy who can do that - amazing! That was really the defining moment in my infatuation. Anyways, on our last day of the course I mentioned how it'd be nice to have a life back again (seeing as we were busy all day and studying all night) and he responds "OOH well a bunch of us are heading to _____ tonight for ______'s birthday, do you know her?" me "No, not by name anyways..." at that point someone interrupted us. Ugh. Why would he tell me that if he wasn't going to invite me? So, realizing that this opportunity was kind of messed up by that interruption I messaged him on Facebook (I know, I know, it was my only choice) asking him about some footage he had taken during the course and offered up 2 options. 1, meeting up or 2, him uploading it. I figured that was a good way to see him again without having to be too forward... It has been a week and I have not heard from him. This doesn't necessarily mean anything, seeing as he and I talked about how busy he is for the next month with work and travels... Of course here I am wondering, did I misread things? It's torturous at times... Any feedback is welcome.. be honest! If you have any Q's, ask... I tried to keep it short.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Well, how essential is the footage? Why do YOU need it? If it's really not that important, he may have seen your thinly veiled attempt for what it was and been pushed off. Who knows. If he sees you as a business contact then it might not be that important for him to get back to you. The thing about them going out for so-and-so's b-day...could have just been him making conversation. Like he was excited that he was going out and wanted to share with his work associate.
Author ilovefreshair Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 The footage is for my own personal development and records. I had asked him about it during the course and he jokingly/flirtingly asked me "what's it worth to you?" so it's not completely out of left field to be asking about it. As far as the birthday thing. The way he lead up to it, it was clear he was going to invite me along. He was interrupted before he could get it out. He could have just wanted to hangout as friends though, that is entirely possible! Once the moment was gone, it would have seemed odd for me to bring it back up again so I just left it. I'm doing much better today, I realize that people are busy and it doesn't necessarily mean anything to not hear from him. FB is so totally impersonal and under any other circumstances I would never choose to use it.... THanks for your thoughts.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Well, I hope things get sorted. Just don't get too invested too soon. I'm guilty of that myself, that's the only reason I say it.
Author ilovefreshair Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Well, I hope things get sorted. Just don't get too invested too soon. I'm guilty of that myself, that's the only reason I say it. Funny enough, that's the exact conclusion I came to about it all last night. I've harped on friends for doing it before, and now I guess it was my turn to get wrapped up in things early on. My instincts (now, after calming down) tell me that I wasn't imagining things, but that I just need to let time work it's magic. It may never materialize into anything, but pushing it will more likely KILL any chance it had rather than accelerate it. Again, thanks SoulSearch_CO
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