tkgirl Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Ah, the fragrant wonder of youth OP, good on ya man for being so loyal and caring; now go find a young lady worthy of that loyalty and care. Remember, and this is crucial, that you *must* show sexual and/or romantic interest blatantly early-on if you are to have any chance of being successful. If you don't, and I speak from much experience here, she will nearly 100% always, if she bonds with you at all, bond with you as a friend or surrogate brother. That bond is nearly impossible to break or alter without destroying it entirely. Leave this young filly be. Lots more fillies and mares in the paddock. Look around hey carhill! so funny how our advice to this young lad is pretty much opposite how about... show interest WHILE playing it cool? but yes, showing interest IS always a good idea... I should know, kinda what I went through with my last guy. He showed interest... then didn't... then did again... then didn't again... did again... didn't again... oops.. back to the OP... advice: play it cool while showing CONSISTENT interest! LOL!
carhill Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Consistent sexual interest. Agreed. If blatant sexual interest isn't one's "style", then clear romantic interest. Don't let the woman blather on about the problems of her day or the guy she is or was banging. That's what the bangee or her girlfriends/family are for. I've been consistently caring and loving to people in general for at least two of the OP's lifetimes. It's a quality I cherish. It also landed me in the tampon bin more times than I care to mention
tkgirl Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Consistent sexual interest. Agreed. If blatant sexual interest isn't one's "style", then clear romantic interest. Don't let the woman blather on about the problems of her day or the guy she is or was banging. That's what the bangee or her girlfriends/family are for. I've been consistently caring and loving to people in general for at least two of the OP's lifetimes. It's a quality I cherish. It also landed me in the tampon bin more times than I care to mention "the bangee"... too funny carhill! oops, back to the advice... yes consistent romantic and/or blatant sexual interest... while playing it cool... and remain caring and loving... but be careful not to end up in the "tampon bin"!
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 Ah, the fragrant wonder of youth OP, good on ya man for being so loyal and caring; now go find a young lady worthy of that loyalty and care. Remember, and this is crucial, that you *must* show sexual and/or romantic interest blatantly early-on if you are to have any chance of being successful. If you don't, and I speak from much experience here, she will nearly 100% always, if she bonds with you at all, bond with you as a friend or surrogate brother. That bond is nearly impossible to break or alter without destroying it entirely. Leave this young filly be. Lots more fillies and mares in the paddock. Look around Oh...****. I havent started flirting yet !!! Are you sure that I can't do something to prevent what you talk about ?? I know ! I can buy this book ! http://www.amazon.com/Dating-Relating-Guide-Understanding-Women/dp/1427629129 I have heard great things from this. Look the reason why I didn't was well....I don't know how to flirt succesfully....I mean yeah she really is a gem to me. Remember I took your advice of looking at other people. Its not like said that I said that to her....hell Its hard for me to strike up conversation after the facebook incident. I didn't want to show lust because I thought I WAS going to turn out like a creep, because I didn't know if she had a boyfriend at the time ! Worst still, she got back together with that guy, it seems that this isn't the only time however, because people have told she hasn't broken up with him ONCE before....
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 "the bangee"... too funny carhill! oops, back to the advice... yes consistent romantic and/or blatant sexual interest... while playing it cool... and remain caring and loving... but be careful not to end up in the "tampon bin"! how so with the romantic side ? How so with the sexual side ? She is religious...I come from a Catholic family but I am a Nihilist as of now. The reason I talk about this is because she is NOT loose with herself....but I don't know if she is really lustful to an extant its apart of her character.... I don't care about my views right now....besides I think she heard me say "The lord works in mysterious ways" one time, and she IMMEDAITLEY turned around and said "What ?" I wasn't even talking to her !!! I guess maybe thats a plus side.
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 Ah, the fragrant wonder of youth OP, good on ya man for being so loyal and caring; now go find a young lady worthy of that loyalty and care...... You see thats it, she is so nice...and caring....
carhill Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Tell me the last time she showed signs of interest and/or significant memory of events, persons or interests of yours.....empathy and/or caring for situations you were experiencing. When you're infatuated, your perception is skewed by the hormones and brain chemicals. The person could be doing nothing but occupying space in your proximity and not even saying two words to you and you're simply ecstatic. The reason I'm saying this is because I felt it again today, as I looked at my cell phone timer to see that my friend (from my journals) and I had been talking for over 90 minutes and it didn't even seem like we had begun. Mind you, this is after knowing each other's business for 24 years. She still can make the room spin for me but I manage the emotions cognitively now. When I was your age, big-time emotional tampon and happy to be one (unhealthily). Now, I give from a completely different place. I released that frustration with desire for mutual romantic interest and just let it go. You sometimes will meet someone who occupies that extra dimension of existence, but that doesn't always mean s/he's going to be mutually interested or, even if s/he is, it might not be a romantic interest. The key is you can take those emotions and put them out there in the world and attract someone to you who does have mutual romantic interest. Don't focus solely on one person. Broadcast Yeah, I'm Catholic and did the adult virgin thing...it's overrated
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 Tell me the last time she showed signs of interest and/or significant memory of events, persons or interests of yours.....empathy and/or caring for situations you were experiencing. When you're infatuated, your perception is skewed by the hormones and brain chemicals. The person could be doing nothing but occupying space in your proximity and not even saying two words to you and you're simply ecstatic. The reason I'm saying this is because I felt it again today, as I looked at my cell phone timer to see that my friend (from my journals) and I had been talking for over 90 minutes and it didn't even seem like we had begun. Mind you, this is after knowing each other's business for 24 years. She still can make the room spin for me but I manage the emotions cognitively now. When I was your age, big-time emotional tampon and happy to be one (unhealthily). Now, I give from a completely different place. I released that frustration with desire for mutual romantic interest and just let it go. You sometimes will meet someone who occupies that extra dimension of existence, but that doesn't always mean s/he's going to be mutually interested or, even if s/he is, it might not be a romantic interest. The key is you can take those emotions and put them out there in the world and attract someone to you who does have mutual romantic interest. Don't focus solely on one person. Broadcast Yeah, I'm Catholic and did the adult virgin thing...it's overrated .......does hi and bye count ???? Does liking the same football team count? Does having families count? As for the virgin thing....holy *****...Yea i guess I still hold it up even though I'm a nihilist. I mean I know people who at my school ridicule me for sticking up for her because of the sexual things they say about her, and I well get pissed. I guess thats a sign that I have a virgin mentality....Its also uncanny that YOU were proud of being almost against being lewd, if understand correctly. I go to an all boys school, so shes not around...
carhill Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 OP, when a woman likes you, especially romantically, she'll take a personal interest in you, whether it be teasing you, or flirting with you, or asking about your mother or sister. She wants to connect with you. You're responsible for approaching her, but she will send out signals, both by her behavior and how she engages you.... I don't consider sex lewd at all and never did. I merely wished to wait for the right woman to share myself with. My friend messed up a lot of those feelings for many years. We laugh about it now, well, sometimes As I said, broadcast. The right young lady will be consistent.
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 Quick question, what do you think of NLP ? This guy here seems to have articles about getting ANYONE attached to you. Look, I'm not that pathetic (at least i don't think so !), but what would would you think using these techniques ?? heres da link... http://ezinearticles.com/?expert_bio=Derek_Rake Scroll down till you see this, ignore the sexual, seduction ones : How to Make a Girl Fall in Love With You - Three "Sonic Seduction" Tactics Just wondering your opinion. I WAS NOT intending on using them her......so please if you can don't accuse me thats all. Also look at this done by the same man: http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Make-Anyone-Fall-in-Love-With-You---Using-Two-Shortcuts&id=2040390 Again let me address That i will use your advice not hang on to her. Thanks for your help at least.
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 Tell me the last time she showed signs of interest and/or significant memory of events, persons or interests of yours.....empathy and/or caring for situations you were experiencing. When you're infatuated, your perception is skewed by the hormones and brain chemicals. The person could be doing nothing but occupying space in your proximity and not even saying two words to you and you're simply ecstatic. The reason I'm saying this is because I felt it again today, as I looked at my cell phone timer to see that my friend (from my journals) and I had been talking for over 90 minutes and it didn't even seem like we had begun. Mind you, this is after knowing each other's business for 24 years. She still can make the room spin for me but I manage the emotions cognitively now. When I was your age, big-time emotional tampon and happy to be one (unhealthily). Now, I give from a completely different place. I released that frustration with desire for mutual romantic interest and just let it go. You sometimes will meet someone who occupies that extra dimension of existence, but that doesn't always mean s/he's going to be mutually interested or, even if s/he is, it might not be a romantic interest. The key is you can take those emotions and put them out there in the world and attract someone to you who does have mutual romantic interest. Don't focus solely on one person. Broadcast Yeah, I'm Catholic and did the adult virgin thing...it's overrated Jesus, since you have mentioned this......I can't stop f*cking thinking about her/..its getting to be an annoyance !
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 so playing it cool worked a little? who knew! uh oh, sounds like you still might got it a little for this girl... like she can do no wrong in your eyes? that's ok... kinda sweet actually, but just be careful! my advice still stands IF that is the case... keep playing it cool, let her figure out if she likes you too. again.. good luck to you! Kinda Sweet ? Don't women look really down on this ? If your a women, doesn't this turn you off ??
carhill Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Hey, I know what you mean. TBH, I don't do game or formulas. I'm big into relationship support and acceptance. I take that "you're always on my mind" and broadcast it to every woman I meet. Look them in the eyes and communicate those feelings, even if we're just talking business. Doesn't matter if they're single or not. It's about getting comfortable with being out there. Encourage this girl to follow her path. If she finds yours attractive, she'll follow it. Perhaps this is bad advice for a young person, but it works for old farts like me. Emotional networking
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Hey, I know what you mean. TBH, I don't do game or formulas. I'm big into relationship support and acceptance. I take that "you're always on my mind" and broadcast it to every woman I meet. Look them in the eyes and communicate those feelings, even if we're just talking business. Doesn't matter if they're single or not. It's about getting comfortable with being out there. Encourage this girl to follow her path. If she finds yours attractive, she'll follow it. Perhaps this is bad advice for a young person, but it works for old farts like me. Emotional networking Hey you have my respects. Today as a little update, I had a another facebook incident......I will not go deep as it is very complicated. It was bad enough that I had one of these facebook car crashes...I had another on accident. If I ever told her how I felt than she would think I'm a freak and never speak to me again. Not be Cynical, but that would not surprise me, because I always seem to have these problems with the women I'm REALLY interested in. We are not just talking about someone I would go on a date with, i mean someone I would commit myself to; giving up myself for her commitment.(Just goes to show how I am a "youthful dreamer" and how I don't know what love is....) Its like I screw up or something. I mean for your advice I would actually love to say that, I think that my interest is way more romantic than sexual, despite the fact she is hot and sometimes VERY cute. But I don't care anymore............. As for that NLP stuff, I would only use it if it truly made her love me. Yes I realize I am an obsessive freak at times.
7117 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I have kinda been in your situation before.I think when you asked her about how she knows the guy on her facebook that was bad.Facebook and myspace crack me up people put there whole life stories on there and if you comment they get mad.Anyway they gave some good advice the one thing I have learned in life is YOU CAN AND WILL NEVER MAKE SOMEONE DO WHAT THEY DON'T WANT TO DO.If you decide to take another crack at it play it cool ignore her at the youth group I would try to even make her jealous people can say whatever they want about my advice it will work.Do that for two weeks the third week o she will get your attention.
tkgirl Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Kinda Sweet ? Don't women look really down on this ? If your a women, doesn't this turn you off ?? yes, I am a women... and no, when a guy is that into me and sees me as "perfect" it IS kind of sweet.... he'd be crazy but it's still sweet! But I should add that I would really only appreciate his admiration like that IF we were already in a established relationship. If I found out some random guy was that into me that I didn't really know or have any interest in, what he thinks wouldn't really matter that much... I don't think I'd be turned-off. I even might be flattered at first, but after a while I would probably take his affections for granted because I knew he was being unrealistic... as in he doesn't really know me. Do you see where I'm going with this? You have decided to put this girl on a pedestal... not a good idea. See her for what she truly is. And right now it seems she is NOT interested so you need to let her go... if you want any kind of chance in the future and to save your sanity right now. Being obsessive about anyone only brings more pain down the road.. I know what I'm talking about here!
Author phillipreed678 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 yes, I am a women... and no, when a guy is that into me and sees me as "perfect" it IS kind of sweet.... he'd be crazy but it's still sweet! But I should add that I would really only appreciate his admiration like that IF we were already in a established relationship. If I found out some random guy was that into me that I didn't really know or have any interest in, what he thinks wouldn't really matter that much... I don't think I'd be turned-off. I even might be flattered at first, but after a while I would probably take his affections for granted because I knew he was being unrealistic... as in he doesn't really know me. Do you see where I'm going with this? You have decided to put this girl on a pedestal... not a good idea. See her for what she truly is. And right now it seems she is NOT interested so you need to let her go... if you want any kind of chance in the future and to save your sanity right now. Being obsessive about anyone only brings more pain down the road.. I know what I'm talking about here! gotch ya.....I play it cool and I'll stop....
tkgirl Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 gotch ya.....I play it cool and I'll stop.... good.. I hope things work out for you! BTW.. this youth group your in... I assume it's church related, right? Not to get all preach-y on you, but when you pray you are really letting go and putting things in God's hands, right? so... this may be what you need to do with this girl... if things are meant to be, they will be, no? good luck!
Author phillipreed678 Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 good.. I hope things work out for you! BTW.. this youth group your in... I assume it's church related, right? Not to get all preach-y on you, but when you pray you are really letting go and putting things in God's hands, right? so... this may be what you need to do with this girl... if things are meant to be, they will be, no? good luck! I will tell you that i was nihlist for about some 5 months. I think in a way she led me back to faith in God, because she is well at her core very religious and kind. I don't REALLY care anymore though Also I just want to bring a problem that involves her, but HAS NOTHING to do with interest. As I have said, i go to an all boys school, and a couple guys know her. ALOT of guys harass me about her, i don't know If I should play virgin boy and respond to nasty sexual things they say with,"Don't talk about her like." look its high school, I think I should lighten up, but sometimes IT goes way to far.
Author phillipreed678 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 Update: Well since, I don't see often than seeing thursday night and sunday morning, I don't talk to her facebook. I will recount the last time i talked on facebook: she got agitated because I mentioned some party I didn't go to but she did. Apparently, there is a collection of people at my school(at least 15 individuals) who are trying their best to feed me bull**** about how she is. They said at the party that she watched Super Bad(funny movie) So I asked about what she thought and she thought it was really weird that I asked that. I don't give a **** now, I'm still going to look at everyone else. Haha why does this happen when interested in certain people ?
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