bwgv Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Ok heres the story. been dating this girl long distnace. for almost two years now while she finished up school. She got a job where i live. and with about 2 months left until she is done with school and down here she says she needs space. and doesnt want to talk until she can get her life back on track up at school, cause she has been not focusing on it, and blames me for that. She cares for me as i do for her. she is just fustrated that i dont tell her i love her and things like that, but i do, just have a hard time getting those things out. mainly just communication things. never had any fights or bad incidents. Any ideas on what to do here. i am giving her space now without contact, i tried to contact her a few days after but she never got back to me. Shes not seeing anyone else or anything like that. How long do i wait before i contact her, a month? or should i not.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Honestly, I wouldn't contact her at all. When someone asks for a break, they set the pace and therefore won't be comfortable with any contact you make. Any contact you make, she will simply back away that much further in order to keep you at a comfortable distance. What to do in the meantime? The same thing she is: filling your life with other things. There is no point in waiting - that will simply be time wasted.
motive2002 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I was gonna say something about space.. but LB is already in the thread and I know what her usual answer is... Let's just say that it isn't a good sign, especially if their reasoning is vague and places blame on you somehow, which according to what you said, it does. Just keep with the no-contact thing. She'll come around. They always do eventually. For some reason they have to check up on you. I hate that. Might be a good idea not to answer when she calls. So, it says break-up in the title? Are you officially broken up then?
Author bwgv Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 yes we are officially broken up and are not in contact anymore
Island Girl Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 You need to really look at how she does not seem to accept your personality. She seems immature trying to pull words out of your mouth instead of just accepting what you give when you want to give it. It does speak to a bottom line compatibility issue. So there's that. She asked for space and you are broken up. That means you do not contact her. Right now you are broken up. It may or may not be permanent.
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