jessicarabbit Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 About a year ago I was madly in love with my ex boyfriend Rein. We had been having a long distance relationship for about a year and everything was perfect until one of my visits, I had a feeling that he wasnt telling me something, I knew something was diffrent. I told him I was going home and wouldnt return until he was honest with me. Well a few days later the truth came out...he had gotten another woman pregnant and she was keeping it. I was absolutly devistated, I had lost the love of my life in a matter of seconds because of this one stupid mistake he made. After the break-up he changed his number, he said it was too hard to talk to me, he deleted his facebook because he didnt want to see my pictures..I had absolutly no way of contacting him..it was (and still is) the worst feeling in the world. He will email me once every 3-4 months, and my heart still melts when I see his email come up. I miss him so much, and I just want to be with him, I still dream about him all the time, everytime I see a picture of us I cry, everytime I hear a song that reminds me of him I cry..I just can't get him out of my head to this day.. and I dont know what to do... Please help me.
flash582 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 OK .. the real question is why do you have such a low opinion of yourself that you would consider, even for a moment in time, to have anything to do WHATSOEVER, with this guy who Lied to you Cheated on you Treated you like crap And is now committed, in one way or another, to this other woman FOR the rest of his LIFE. I don't understand, as one of the proverbial nice guys, why women will let a guy crap all over them and then, at the first opportunity, RUN back for more. You are better than this. You DESERVE better.
Author jessicarabbit Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 OK .. the real question is why do you have such a low opinion of yourself that you would consider, even for a moment in time, to have anything to do WHATSOEVER, with this guy who Lied to you Cheated on you Treated you like crap And is now committed, in one way or another, to this other woman FOR the rest of his LIFE. I don't understand, as one of the proverbial nice guys, why women will let a guy crap all over them and then, at the first opportunity, RUN back for more. You are better than this. You DESERVE better. I know...its so sad. I dont want to love him anymore, I try not too, but I do and I dont know why. That is why Im reaching out for help. I just really thought he was the only one out there for me
Donovan Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 i agree with flash. the question i have for you jessica is that if your ex had treated you like royalty, would you have been so crazy about him?
Author jessicarabbit Posted March 23, 2009 Author Posted March 23, 2009 If he treated me like royalty we probly would have been married right now. I think it was just the fact that everything happened so sudden, and we never got closure which kills me. I just want to find someone who truly cares about me so I can fall in love again and move on.. :/
kimbop Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 You don't need someone else to replace your ex. You don't need anyone. PERIOD. Don't become a needy woman because you'll be prey to another douchebag like your ex. Get a dog instead. The dog will love you unconditionally and won't emotionally crap on you.
gavinus Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 yeah, there is no easy way, you have to go through the pain, etc on your own to come out the other side. There is no point dating again until u are sorted, otherwise you will meet another guy who will treat you bad.....your ex was a jerk!!
Donovan Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 If he treated me like royalty we probly would have been married right now. I think it was just the fact that everything happened so sudden, and we never got closure which kills me. I just want to find someone who truly cares about me so I can fall in love again and move on.. :/ well i hope u really mean it and once you stop looking, it will come to u. it always happens.
You'reasian Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I know...its so sad. I dont want to love him anymore, I try not too, but I do and I dont know why. That is why Im reaching out for help. I just really thought he was the only one out there for me Do you believe in connections? I'm talking about making a really deep emotional, mental and physical connection with someone - where you can almost feel them, even though you may be miles and miles away? This can happen sometimes - I'm not sure how or why, but when it does, it sticks with you.
Author jessicarabbit Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 Do you believe in connections? I'm talking about making a really deep emotional, mental and physical connection with someone - where you can almost feel them, even though you may be miles and miles away? This can happen sometimes - I'm not sure how or why, but when it does, it sticks with you. yes i do believe in this
boldjack Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Jeez Jess, That's really too bad. From your other posts I just assumed that you " played the field", and didn't want a LTR. This really sucks. I think that these sudden breaks are so painful. Under the circumstances, I guess "closure", is about all you can hope for from him. Love affairs can be sooooo sad. It's small comfort, but he seems to be manning up and accepting his responsibilities, so it shows that your love wasn't completely misplaced. You have always struck me as an honest, intelligent Lady, and I can only hope that you can find someone to melt your heart again. If you ever want to vent in private, pm me any time......Jack
xpaperxcutx Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 You haven't let go of him yet. It's called attachment. You might think you're in love but those feelings have become unrealistic after finding out he cheated. You're subconsciously holding on to emotions that are unhealthy. If you can learn to break your ties from him, you can then move forward. I know some women who are addicted to these emotions of lost and heartbreak. It's a cycle of self torment.
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