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Ok, here goes:

 

I'm 16 and currently in what you would call high school, and I'm quite unhappy with how my social life is going at the moment; or more the fact that it doesn't even exist. Just to outline, the last time I did anything withfriends was back in the winter hols. I know, right? :/

 

So my problem: I've been in the same school for a long time, and when I was younger I had a best mate and all that. We fell out before I got into the secondary school (as we call it here)...but that's not the issue anyhow. I'm the guy that gets the top marks for everything, wears glasses [:(] and all that. And high school being like it is, a lot of social groups started to form...the "popular group" being the rugby team and the ones who talked to all the girls (it's not a mixed school but there is the girls' version of the school nearby). Well I didn't go in for all of that, but I was still great friends with the people in that group. When the second year came around, I was still friends with them, and I got even more popular because I'm pretty funny in class. I even got invited to the most popular guy's party (and again the next year). My best friend at that time was Jewish (I'm not), and we used to see each other quite regularly. However, where it all fell apart was when he regularly began rejecting my calls and invites...I'm still not exactly sure why, but he still did anyway. (He's still one of my best mates though, up and down and all that. It's just that we don't see each other outside school anymore).

 

My situation now is that there are unfortunately a number of "cliques", well more racial groups than anything. I'm not in any of those, and that friend is in the "Jewish group" as one would expect. However, I'm not in the group for "my race" as I find the whole idea laughable. I'm not in the popular group because I guess I'm too much of a geek (I love video games, and wear glasses ;)), but I'm certainly not in the unpopular group. I consistently have a great laugh with the "most popular" people in my year and I'm quite popular with them, but that's all; I've never been invited out other than the aforementioned parties. The thing is, I can easily make friends because of my sense of humour, but I just can't break the "going out" barrier. I still don't know any girls from school other than the ones that go on my bus. So now I'm completely stuck in a situation where my weekends are spent playing video games and reading forums :(

 

HELP!!

 

Oh and sorry for the wall of text, but I felt you should get the full picture first :)

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