Peter_pan Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 sorry not sure where this should belong. ok i was thinkin about my ex's brother and how we used to be like brothers. i think its a shame that because of what happened we lost touch. yet she stayed in contact with my little sister. i would like to speak to him again and no it is not as a route to hear about her etc. because if i wanted to do that then i could simply speak to my best mate who speaks to her. i feel enough time has passed that i could talk with him and go out for a drink and (her name) would not even be mentioned or feel the need for it to be brought up im so glad i can look at the situation and know thats how i feel about it all. its great. i have already thought about adding him on fb, but i couldn't deal with seeing photos of her. well i could, i mean id rather not. and most people will say well thats an indication you are not over her, and hey maybe i am not maybe i never will be. but i know clear in my head it isnt her that i want.
Author Peter_pan Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 as a bump and also another sort of question, is it possible to be in contact with an ex after a year has passed or x amount of time? and if there still with someone they left you for, is it really worth it? i feel like now that there is nothing between me her or her family, its as if we never existed and i find that quite unsettling esp as this is a person you had something special with and all of those great memories. im not sure what im really looking for in terms of what i would get out of being a contact of hers, or if we did talk. but i feel like she was my other half at some point in my life and that counts for something? i couldn't keep her to myself forever so maybe i was being selfish trying to keep hold of her, and was far to stubborn and bitter to hold her going out with him against her. i dunno
Beautiful Inside Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 well whether your over her or not i think its ok to add him to FB or hit him up like be friends again cause i don't mind if any of my ex's kept in contact with my brother thats usually what happens cause they build a friendship....theres on ex though that was literally a ****in loser that he started telling lies about me tried to ruin my friendships and i told him to never talk to anyone in my family every again! so as long as she doesn't despise your or hate you and your not talking **** about her then she should be fine with it.
Author Peter_pan Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 well whether your over her or not i think its ok to add him to FB or hit him up like be friends again cause i don't mind if any of my ex's kept in contact with my brother thats usually what happens cause they build a friendship....theres on ex though that was literally a ****in loser that he started telling lies about me tried to ruin my friendships and i told him to never talk to anyone in my family every again! so as long as she doesn't despise your or hate you and your not talking **** about her then she should be fine with it. yeh i see what you mean. ha that reminded me of the early days when she told me through a txt never to contact her family again cause i just upset them.... this was after i called her mum and told her how i did not know of her and this new guy ( she lied to her mum and told her she had told me about him already). so she obviously didnt like being found out. im not quite sure why she would say that as she was the one who had herself a new guy so fast... i did try emailing her before jan and her bf replied... i didnt read it and just deleted it. maybe that was a big mistake. but it annoys me to think he is controlling her or something. or like that they are like how "we used to be". cause i feel i knew her better but obviously they are making and have made all new memories and thats how it is and will be now. but thats life. god seems like such a mess dosnt it. need to find someone new me thinks...
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