Chip11 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Half the time, I just don't care. It is easily my biggest flaw. I am probably the most apathetic person I know. Example: I was always a great student in high school, lowest marks being mid-70s, grades used to be the only thing in my life for a bit, and I have failed two or more courses already in university, in my first year. I just don't care, though. This seems weird to me. Why don't I care about wasting time and money on an education? Why don't I care about things that are actually important? I see the possible benefits of doing something, but I don't do it. I see the consequences of not doing something, but I don't do it. I know exactly what to do in most any given situation, but I don't do it. Is there ANY way to improve this? Or am I stuck being apathetic the rest of my life? It's surprisingly harder than it sounds to start giving a ****.
era Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Why don't I care about things that are actually important? Maybe because they are not actually important - to you.
leapy Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 You sound like you might be a bit depressed, are you having trouble caring about anything or is it just your university studies?
Author Chip11 Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 These things are important to me, I just can't seem to care about them. It does deal with other things than university grades, like getting a summer job, getting a place to live next year, a girl I like back home, and just basically getting some important things done. Things that I definitely should care about and should jump on right away. It might be depression, I did talk to a counselor about that, but it still goes a lot further back, and I only really started caring about some things about a year or so ago, which something like depression doesn't. Oh, and I'm 18, btw.
Isolde Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 I had this problem until very recently. What really helped me was conceptualizing the kind of person I wanted to be. Then I gradually began to connect certain tasks with becoming that person, going down to smaller and more detailed tasks, like homework. So now, even if I'm working on a task that is distasteful or boring, I can very easily project it as a means to the end I want. The thing is, whether you like it or not, what you do is who you become, to a large degree. But you can decide what to do first: choose who you'll become, or choose what you'll do.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Chip, I jumped into college right out of HS like you. And it was definitely not right for me. I couldn't focus, I didn't care. I was failing out of classes from not showing up and while I knew I should have cared, I really didn't. I realized some years later that I just wasn't all that invested in it. Maybe taking a break and deciding what you really want to do with your life would make it easier. I went through a college-level program this past summer (intense - 6 days a week, probably about 50 hours or more per week and I was working - earned 30+ credit hours) and got a 4.0. At 18 I just wasn't ready for it. Apparently, 10 years later, I was.
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