kashmir Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 When I see a girl, I think of so much potential. I think she can be so sweet, so pretty, so warm. Girls have something to them that guys obviously don't have. Something that can just totally liquidate a guy. I love it. I see a bit of that in every girl. When I see a girl I'm attracted to, I think to myself what could potentially be, and that it never will be anything unless I make a move. Then things turn for the worst. That potential is completely lost. The girl always shows herself to be cold to me, either by completely ignoring me or being rude and nasty. I then see a girl and see a selfish and egocentric bitch who thinks she can control any male she wants. I hate it. I'm really tired of trying and failing. I makes me think what part of me is so flawed that girls become these cold witches to me. I feel like just the sight of me turns girls away. Just my presence naturally sends them in the other direction. It shouldn't, but it does. I feel like there's this supernatural rain cloud hanging over my head that acts as a barrier to any type of social interaction I want to accomplish. I had another pretty depressing experience tonight. I keep at it with every girl that peaks my interest, but every time things turn out the same. I'm really getting tired of it and am really getting lonely. It sucks.
Els Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Firstly, I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Moving on... have you ever thought that the problem might lie in the sort of girls that peak your interest? You said you saw a bit of it in every girl, yes, but that doesn't mean you're interested in all of them I'm sure. I recall reading some post of yours long ago where you said you wanted to get with a 'super-hot girl', and when some people advised you against it you said that you just had to get that out of your system before you go looking for a stable LTR. So were all those that you tried approaching, 'super-hot'? Edit: I'm not trying to say that such girls are all like that, or that being attractive justifies their actions. However, in our society, the sad but true fact is that attractive women are more 'prized' in the dating game. And it's human nature, if one is lavished with too much attention and fawning and gaping, that one ends up becoming more egocentric (and thinking she deserves more attractive/richer/more stylish men as well, based on society's standards once again). And many men propagate this by only chasing after such women and thus being part of the cause of their own rejection, when there is a sweet, warm, but slightly plainer girl sitting on the side, ignored.
Author kashmir Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 I apologize. This was nothing more than a late-night post-drunken vent. Recently, the last of my friends acquired girlfriends. When I would go to parties with them, it would be about us just having a good time and maybe talking to a girl here or there. Last night they all had their girlfriends with them and were with them all night. I'm not blaming them, it just gave me no one to hang out with and left me alone most of the night, trying to talk to some new people but getting blown off. I felt pretty down by the end of the night. Elswyth, I approach a wide range of girls. Some are typical hotties, while others are not so much mainstream attractive but instead seem to click for me individually. It seems like they all have the attitude of the "super-hot" girl though, which is, "You'd better not be thinking of talking to me. I'm out of your league."
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