glinville Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 My ex-girlfriend broke up with me 2 days ago. 2 days before she broke up with me she was telling me how she wanted me to propose to her. I dont understand what is going on and I really want her back. I have never loved anyone so much. The begining of our relationship was amazing but then she started to stop doing some of the things that she used to do. And she started hanging out with her friends alot more. After she broke up with me I tried texting and calling but she has ignored every text and call. By the way she broke up with me through text. So I went to her work tonight because that was the only way I knew I could talk to her. I brought flowers and apoligized and asked for another chance. She said she dosnt know if she can do it, She says she feels like she cant make me happy. But she makes me so happy and I told her that. She says she dosnt know if she can give me another chance or not but will be friends. I can not live up to being a friend after everything that has happened. I want her as a girlfriend again. I dont know what to do. I cant sleep or eat or even concetrate on school. Im so lost and spaced out I forget to turn in something for school. I dont know what to do to get her back. But, I cant be without her. I have been through a lot of heart break but I have never felt this in love with anyone as I do for her. Please help.
era Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 2 days before she broke up with me she was telling me how she wanted me to propose to her. She wanted to marry you. Maybe she got fed-up and tired of waiting. Is there any reason why you didn't propose? You say you've never felt this in love with anyone.
RecordProducer Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Sounds like a silent ultimatum to me, too. She wants you to propose.
samspade Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Maybe she got fed-up and tired of waiting. There are other ways of communicating that you want to get married without holding the relationship hostage. If that was her reason (and I disagree that it was), she is playing a selfish and childish game and doesn't deserve him. A woman who gives marriage ultimatums is not interested in marrying you. If she were, she'd be patient and not threaten to walk out, or actually walk out, as is the case here. Furthermore, if you are not interested in marrying, you should not be cowed into it by an ultimatum. That's the wrong reason to marry! You propose to her if and when YOU want to, not because she left you or threatened to leave. She broke up with you over text, man. That is bush league and NOT marriage material. Why would you want someone back who didn't even have the courage to tell you the truth to your face? You should not be stalking her at work with flowers and the like. If she doesn't return your calls, she doesn't want to talk to you right now. That sucks, I know, but you have to leave her alone. Instead, you've thrown yourself at her feet like a doormat. Now she's saying she doesn't know if she can give you another chance. You've ceded complete control to your ex, who has already shown she doesn't want to be with you. The only way to get a little control (over yourself) back is to leave her alone and move on. Maybe she will come back. Whatever you do, do NOT discuss marriage. She sounds like someone who wants to get married for her own sake, and not to be with you, or she'd never have left.
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