exclusive. Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I have tried to contact her twice and neither time has she responded. I feel okay, I feel as though I am ready to meet someone new and I know life is going to carry on. But each day, deep inside I know Im not happy and deep down, it rips me apart that each day she has no need to contact me after I thought she loved me. Does this feeling pass? I hate feeling upset that she doesnt give a **** anymore.
trying123 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I remember with my first girlfriend after she broke up with me after a year and a half and started dating someone the next day, I thought I was gonna die, I thought it was over, that I would rather die than feel like this about a year later, I could care less, I am not even mad, we could honestly sit down and have a conversation, I honestly nothing her, I do not hate or like her, I promise time heals everything, it just takes so freaking long, my advice, surround yourself with girls as friends, bitch and bitch, they eat it up and you feel better
trying123 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 also stay no contact, you just feel worse when they don't reply
gavinus Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I know how u feel, 7 weeks split up, off and on NC. NC is better though, trust me. Everytime I have contacted her (she dumped me) it sets me back again, and I have to go through the pain, let her go, for you, she knows where she can get a hold of you
Author exclusive. Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 hmmmm I guess its not knowing whether they are doing it for your good, or whether they actually dont give a rats arse. Im guessing both.
Meaplus3 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I have tried to contact her twice and neither time has she responded. I feel okay, I feel as though I am ready to meet someone new and I know life is going to carry on. But each day, deep inside I know Im not happy and deep down, it rips me apart that each day she has no need to contact me after I thought she loved me. Does this feeling pass? I hate feeling upset that she doesnt give a **** anymore. If you continue to contact her and she continues not to respond back this will only make it worse for you I have been there. The feelings will pass once you can stick with NC. Try keeping yourself busy this will keep your mind off her. Hang in there. I know it may seem tough right now, but things will get better. Mea:)
Author exclusive. Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 I just can't get off my mind; is she with someone else? I keep giving myself graphic day dreams about her having sex with other men, its horrible and really makes me ill. Sigh.
era Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I am not even mad, we could honestly sit down and have a conversation, I honestly nothing her, I do not hate or like her exclusive - This will happen to you also in time. When you see and talk to the ex and feel NOTHING.
gavinus Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I know what you mean. I keep thinking about my ex and the possible guys she's sleeping with, but remember while they are not with you, they have NO idea what you are doing and who you are sleeping with (even if you are with nobody, they DON'T know that)
Meaplus3 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I just can't get off my mind; is she with someone else? I keep giving myself graphic day dreams about her having sex with other men, its horrible and really makes me ill. Sigh. Well thinking this way is going to make you upset. You need to picture somethng else anything. How about a relaxing image of a place you've been that makes you feel all happy inside? Really, shift your focus here and it will make things much easier. Mea:)
Frankasy Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I have tried to contact her twice and neither time has she responded. I feel okay, I feel as though I am ready to meet someone new and I know life is going to carry on. But each day, deep inside I know Im not happy and deep down, it rips me apart that each day she has no need to contact me after I thought she loved me. Does this feeling pass? I hate feeling upset that she doesnt give a **** anymore. Don't you get it, it's supposed to be NC meaning that you're not supposed to contact her but you do, of course that'll make things harder. Let me say a few words which made me feel better before and during NC. If she doesn't care about you, won't bother to contact you than why should you? Just keep this in mind. Now go in straight NC, don't try to contact her, delete her from FB so that you don't see her pics, updates. At first it's gonna be a little hard, afterwords it's pretty much downhill.
playlislay Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 My way of coping is to think that I have one up on him. He dumped me btw. Yes I love him and miss him, and deep down Im sure he still loves me. He has totally blocked me out as he (apparently) feels like if he talks to me he will want to get back with me-yes, for me this is the worse thing to know!!!! ( But what can you do? If youve tried to get her back and it hasnt worked then move on. I do believe that love is something precious that you should hold on to-me and him had an extra special bond, we were bessotted with each other-but if that person wants to block you out then you must do the same. Ive been dating a few guys, getting on with my uni work (we are on the same course so if I know that I could get better grades than him then that there is some sort of satisaction), improving my figure, aiming higher, and all of this feels like im sticking my middle finger up to him whilst saying "Ha! F you, Im doing great! Infact, you dont deserve me at all." ) Of course I still love him, but I see it that the way that he has treated me after has hurt me so much that I dont think I would want to be with a man like that. Chin up and make yourself a better person!
northstar1 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 I have tried to contact her twice and neither time has she responded. I feel okay, I feel as though I am ready to meet someone new and I know life is going to carry on. But each day, deep inside I know Im not happy and deep down, it rips me apart that each day she has no need to contact me after I thought she loved me. Does this feeling pass? I hate feeling upset that she doesnt give a **** anymore. The feeling will pass in time, yes. Don't think she no longer cares for you, it is most likely she still does, however her not replying to your texts is showing she is not ready for any sort of communication. Whether that is because she is healing, or because she know it's not fair to you if she does (friendly contact with ex's is pointless and just hurts), is hard to say at this point. THe first few months of NC are hard, no doubt, you try and bargain how this person you spoke to daily no longer wants any contact. As someone who carried on light contact with my ex for a few months, I can tell you it does not but set you back, because it keeps hope. Stay strong, you will get through it. But no more contacting her.
Author exclusive. Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 Thanks for all the messages, its always nice to get the real perspective slapped in your face again. I know this is a bit of change of subject - but how did you guys all find the dating game when feeling like I do? I feel like no girls are bothered about me atm, but is it a natural vibe Im giving off? Fact is, one reason my ex finished with me was because she was jealous I spoke to so many girls - 100% loyal though. But now, its silent for me and the opposite sex and Im confused as to why...maybe im too arrogant of myself, for my own good?
Fantastic1987 Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 it may seem like you are ready to move on but you arent actually but you know waht the reasons guys get over breakups slower is because they keep it all in. You arent keeping everything in so you will have a much faster time getting over this Dont worry, if she is a decent girl she shouldnt go sleeping around etc. The most important relationship someone can have is the relationship with yourself because AFTERALL at the end of the day thats who you have to live with right? absense makes the heart grow founder as well, if ytou were a really good,decent bf to her she will come running back. Just give it time oh wells you blew no contact! atleast now you know to for sure 100% not contact her again right?
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