12ape Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Well bottom line, its quite recent that I have come out of a 4-year relationship.. Pretty much she dumped me, because she wasn't happy anymore and had feelings for someone else. I want to write her a FINAL letter to sum up everything that has happend, I want closure but I really want to get my final feelings off my chest upon her. It's killing me, and everyday which goes past im just getting images, thoughts which are slowing ripping me apart inside.. So I want to gather all of her stuff she has left round here, notes pictures and everything and give them back.. Because I can't see her face as it's hurting.. What could I write, No haters please I just want some friendly advice. Thanks, Sam M
AMM003 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I think you should write it then put it away. Meaning - don't send it. She probably isn't the least bit interested in how you feel since she's got someone else now. She really gave you all the closure you need by letting someone else come between the two if you. Give her the same closure by cutting her loose and moving on. If you send it, all you will end up doing is wondering how she took it,felt about it, and if the context of the letter is doing what you are intending it to do. And it pushes them away further. When they leave for someone else, it is the worst feeling in the world. Hey, yesterday's gone, there may not be a tomorrow, so live for today. Let it all go, you'll be alright in time.
WTRanger Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I agree, you should write it then put it away for a bit. Look at it again in a few weeks and if you truly feel the same then I'd go ahead and send it. However, you have to be 100% ready for her not to respond. If you don't think you could deal with that, then do not send the letter. You have to be honest with yourself in that assessment too. You could even post drafts on here if you want. Believe me, posting on here is much better than going after someone and making situations worse.
EmperorR Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Don't send it, write it make revisions daily but don't send it. Wait a month look at it and I gurantee you, you will feel better for not sending it. Trusts she does t care about your emotions or deep thoughts your going to spill in that letter.
Melocoton Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Write two letters.. The first letter write everything you would like to tell her for your closure. It will help you feel better, but don't send it. Just hold onto it. Now write your second letter. This one to release all your negative energy; anger, pain, suffering, etc. Write everything you wish you could say to her... then burn it. Now read the first letter again and see if you really want to send it. Hopefully you throw the first letter in the fire with her pictures, notes and any other memorablia that is caused you to have relapse pain.
Melocoton Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 If you read clearly the suggestion was never to send the letters but to get thoughts and feeling out on paper and then BURN them
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I think that verses seeing her and it may hurt you even more...take the stuff you have of hers and memories and throw them away along with a letter that you will write and put in the box. I'm sorry that you are going through what you are going through, but I don't think its right to see her. It may make the situation get worse.
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