seth3g5 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 first off im 15. There is there is this girl that i met almost 2 months ago. Right now we are just friends but i really realy really like her. i like her way more than any other girl i have ever liked. She has a boyfriend and they’ve been together for 2 years. She never has even mentioned him to me but she knows that i know she has a boyfriend. Whenever we see each other around school we always say hi and we still do even if she is with her boyfriend. I’d say we are pretty good friends but just friends. I think she likes me but i’m not real sure. But i have no idea what to do?? do i tell her how i feel and risk losing a good friend?? do i just wait for them to break up even if they have been together for 2 years? and i don’t think i can just move on because she is the only girl like and i like her a lot. any help would REALLY BE APPRECIATED thanks
samspade Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 What I'm about to tell you might sound counter-intuitive, because you are 15 and if you are like I was, probably have a thing or two to learn about women/relationships. First, don't make any moves on her while she's got a boyfriend. Second, stay in touch with her, but don't let yourself get in the friendzone. You don't want her to think of you as a girlfriend with a penis. Limit your time with her, and don't spill your guts/feelings to her. You'll ruin the mystery. Third, even though I know you like this particular girl, find a different one or few and ask them out. The girl you like probably won't stay with her bf forever, but while you are "waiting," you should be enjoying yourself and dating different girls. Waiting around for her while she is having fun with her guy makes no sense. Also, by dating other girls, you'll demonstrate to her that you're a bit of a catch. Females can be very competitive, and if she sees someone else with a guy she realizes she likes, well, YOU'LL be the prey. Stay in the picture, but don't spend all your time with her. Live life and have fun!
samspade Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 ...I should add that the goal in dating other chicks is for you to have fun and get experience, NOT to snag the girl you like - though that may happen. I hope that makes sense!
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