trying123 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I will try to make a long story short. I have been with my girlfriend on and off for five years. During that time she has broke up with me three times. We are trying again and having problems. I am not happy with everything from how I am being treated, lack of intimacy, and spending time together. I have stressed that I am not super happy with fooling around twice a month. She has basically said she was too busy and we lack an emotional connection which we need to work on. I was at a bar last night and I was really drunk. I have never cheated before but some girl was really into me and I made out with her, thats it. Just having a another girl actually want to make out with me instead of trying to beg for it in so long I slipped. I was honest with her and she got really mad, and said she never wanted to see me again. Then there were terrible text messages like you mean nothing to me now. If you truly hated me she would not say anything to me, not try to be spiteful. I still love her and I know I messed up. I guess what I am getting at is there a chance, I came clean the next day. I wanna make it right. Are we fixable, can she forgive me, am I a monster? thanks
Solace22 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I am not an expert, but I am curious as to why you continued to get back with her after it was over. You said you are not happy with her, I don't think you should be around her. Just to clarify, was it the new girl that got mad at you, or the previous?
chrissreef Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 well... i gave a girl a topless massage, nothing mroe and never a kiss. my girl flipped. the only way to recover is you must truly give the impression that you're verrrrryyy sorry and regret your mistake sooo much. then you must kiss her butt for 2-3 months and "maybe" she's forgive, but she'll never forget. i probably didn't kiss butt long enough. she said she was good weeks/months later but then many months after my stupid mistake in an arguement it came up - she obviously wasn't over it. then about a month later she cheated on me (full on cheat) and left me. i'm hoping she comes back but it's been 3 months...
Author trying123 Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 The new girl was just some random, the old girl got super pissed and said I ruined everything, Even after all I know, the reason I got back together after the break ups that she some how made it seem like my fault. We broke up, either one month, three months, or seven months later she is back at my door wanting to get back together. I was honest with her about the whole thing and told her the next day, I am just wondering am I a monster, in my heart I know I was a door mat and this was me acting out, we were secret lovers for all intensive purposes(I never saw her family and friends after five months after the third break up) I just wanna know that it wasn't me who messed everything up, I have never tried so hard and it was just a mistake
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