Donovan Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I've been in 3 serious relationships in my life. the first one was for u can say 5 years. she cheated on me when she finally finished school that i helped her through and got her job, bmw, and figured she didnt need me anymore. The 2nd was over a year after I didnt' want to be with the cheater. This girl was possessive and even though I spent over 12 hours a day with her during the week(she got all of my time on the weekends) that wasn't enough. She wanted me to lose contact with all of my female friends i had known many years before here even my male friends's wives and fiances. That ended quick. which brings us to #3. I figured after 2 years I'd try again cuz i know it can't be me. Now i'm not perfect at all. I'm sure I do things that make people mad, but i do not yell at anyone, curse, drink, smoke, go to clubs at all(of any kinds unless I'm performing cuz im a musician), or cheat(definately cheat. never cheated on a girl in my life). So I meet this girl and we hit it off fine. We just have so much in common and there never is a problem. My closest friend was killed 2 weeks ago and the day he was killed, she started to act as if she didnt' want anything to do with me. I was confused and still am as to why she'd turn her back on me. I just wanted(and still do) someone to talk. Everytime I'd call her she was tired and we'd talk for only 10 minuts. Everytime i'd go to her place she was tired and was gonna go to bed soon. Everytime i'd ask her to go somewhere with me, we'd go and have to leave in 15 minutes cuz she had something to do. I understand she was a busy person but so am i and i dont' want to be around her 24/7 cuz she has a life too but at least 2 days a week isnt' too much to ask for in my opinion.. Well last night i figured it all out. dont get me wrong she's a great girl and i still wish her the best, but she shouldnt have used me as insurance and a rebound until she felt better. I should have known better so i dont blame her. When i met her she would always talk to me about how her exes did things for their new girls and never did them for her. I asked her if it bothered her and she said no. i told her, "if there comes a time u don't want to be with me just let me know". and she agreed as long as i did the same. so tonight she canceled on a date to one of my shows we had been planning for a month. I told her i would go and see her before i go to the show and i understood why she canceled and i wasn't mad at all.. she said she was gonna watch a movie and go to bed early and told me she would call me tonight. she didn't call(haven't called since tuesday). i go to see her and she's playing video games with one of her male friends(don't get me wrong, her male friends are great guys and i like them greatly and i encouraged her to hang out with them more cuz i'm on the road quite a bit). i walk in and she says, "i thought u had a show". i was speechless. she didn't have to lie if she didn't want to see me. all she had to do was tell me to leave her alone. so when he left i talked to her one on one and she comes with this nonsense story about wanted to take it slow. i told her i wanted to take it slow from the start. i told her i was celebate and i never pressured her into doing anything she didn't want to do. but the real problem is that she never wanted me to begin with and i was just insurance/rebound to help her cope with the 2 guys she wants that doesn't want her. and i told her that. she said i was just trying to make her feel guilty.. I really hope she figures out what she wants in life and i will pray for her and wish her the best. I'm not mad at her, i'm just mad about the guys that hurt her makes her play with others emotions to satisfy her needs. she says i've been acting strange the past 2 weeks? DUH!! my close friend was killed. of course i'm gon be quiet at times and not want to talk. but this was the oppourtunity she's been waiting for to get away from me. I have friends that use girls for everything. i mean EVERYTHING. these girls buy clothes, tvs, video game systems,etc. I refuse to let a girl buy me anything cuz i have too much pride and i don't use people. but somehow that's not what a woman wants. chris brown beats rihanna and she still loves him and wants him. tina stayed with ike for 16 years of abuse. I knew a guy in georgia that was with a girl, she uses and leaves him, gets pregnant, her new man leaves her and this dude takes her back and supports her kid. I sometimes wish i could be heartless because my life would be so much easier. I'm not going to bother her anymore. if she wants to speak to me she has my email and phone number and i'll be happy to talk to her
AMM003 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Yeah bud, time to move on. Sorry to hear bout a close friend. It's real good she didn't waste any more of your time though. ALot of folks here have been strung along for a lot longer and much more ruthlessly. Consider yourself lucky in this instance. Sounds like you're a good man. Do yourself the biggest favor and stay that way.
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