barbiegirltc Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 My Boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year, and we have been in a LDR for 1 yr. Currently he is miles away in med school. My problem starts here: I met my bf on this rating website, and after a couple of months i deleted mine because i did not want it anymore. But my boyfriend still has his, which is no problem. My bf and i both flirt not in front of each other but in general. If some guy tries to hit on me at school i will flirt a lil and then say i have a bf. My bf does the same as well, but recently i have been getting jealous alot. Due to him being in med school we do not talk as much, because studying is as intense as it gets everyday. I get to hear his voice once or twice a week. Lately after his 2nd post exam, he has been on msn alot (for hrs) and it makes me feel so insecure when i don't have a reason to be. i know that he does have a life besides me. He does have friends that he likes to be in touch with. But it breaks my heart when i see him online till one or three in the morning his time. Thinking he could of called me and used that time to talk to me. He hasn't been calling me lately, because he has been very irriated with the back to back exams he is going to have next month. Wednesday i called him because i will missing him a bit too much, so we talked. Everything is the same, our conversations are the same. We talk about our future, he tells me how much he loves me, we do dirty talking and stuff. Nothing seems to have change expect the phone calling. which i can understand, because this has happened before. I know for a fact that he is not cheating on me with people online. I know he is committed to me. Because before going into this LDR we told each other how we will get married to each other and have a future together. I love my bf to death, my heart tells me its nothing but boredom that he is having that is why he is online. but my brain keeps pushing me and i keep getting this negative thoughts. If he wanted to do something wrong with me, he would of done it a long time ago. There are girls in his med school, he can even do it with them. I do not know why i am feeling so insecure and jealous. I have been cheated on the past. and i do not want to lose my bf. My bf has never cheated in any of his relationship, except the last one. Because his ex was getting a bit too bitchy and controlling. Pls help. i do not know what to do.
Melocoton Posted March 22, 2009 Posted March 22, 2009 Sounds like you are not getting enough attention and this is making you insecure in the relationship. Also sounds like you have trust issues, so when he could spend time with you and doesn't you automatically start thinking the worst. One thing that may ease your mind is at least he is online during this time. Which means he is not at some other womans house. My advice is to just explain to him how you feel and how important it is for you to receive a 5 minute phone call.
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