39388 Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Thank you! I was actually getting a little bit discouraged from posting coz of all the attacks I got. Oh what can I say it is a board of opinions. lol. Alright so I'm just waiting for her to call me and hopefully we can talk a little bit and hopefully she'll give me second chance after all. It's great that things are going better! Hopefully it works out. Some of the destructive criticsim you got was childish and uncalled for. The constructive criticism was very good though.
Je suis étudiant. Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Turn, There's nothing wrong with being an arrogant prick If you want the woman of your dreams, just wear a T-shirt that says, "I'm a drunk and I beat women" and they'll be all over you and you can have your choice.
Author turnshyness Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 So I took your advice and we're both taking it slow now. Everything seems to be working fine. If anything, it actually brought us closer BUT when we were having our little talk about her past, and how I told her the ball is in your court, she said what if this is the only level we can go bec of we go more beyond this level it will break us. So now I'm a little bit worried w/ that response. Just take it slow and be honest, upfront with her. Stop focussing on moving to 2nd base - Just get to know her, BE a friend, DO nice things for her and with her. Cuddle, hold hands, kiss but nothing past that until SHE tells you she's ready. And yes, that means you telling her, 'the ball is in your court, when you feel ready to take it to another level, I'll be ready. No pressure.' I think if the pace (sexual stuff and fooling around) slows down and you two focus on really getting to know eachother on an intimate level emotionally, her walls will come down and she'll trust you more. Oh and one more thing, don't forget to have fun too! Be silly, laugh and just enjoy spending time together. Good luck and keep posting!
39388 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 So I took your advice and we're both taking it slow now. Everything seems to be working fine. If anything, it actually brought us closer BUT when we were having our little talk about her past, and how I told her the ball is in your court, she said what if this is the only level we can go bec of we go more beyond this level it will break us. So now I'm a little bit worried w/ that response. Don't hurry it, but if she never wants to get closer physically, obviously it won't work out. Give it some time. Another poster might have a better idea of how much time. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. You have shown that you are capable of finding women. If this one does not work, you most certainly will find another which you will not make the same mistake with.
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