gavinus Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I was with my ex for 3 years. She dumped me 7 weeks ago. NC for 3 weeks now after I saw her and put her off me permanently. She had anger issues which I said I would not marry her for or have a child with her. She then dumped me and blamed me, this is what she said to my face. # I am a rescuer, which I need therapy for, and I am thick # I do not love you, respect you and would not be proud to marry you at all. # I killed her enthusiasm, and the only reason I stayed with you for so long (3 years) was because she was scared to end up alone and she could settle for me but was really looking for somebody better than me. # I was the cause of her anger issues and it was my fault she took her verbal, emotional, and physical anger out on me. I made her like this and I drove her crazy. # I needed to be more outgoing and get more friends and my personality was one she could never fully accept. # I was not respectful enough, never opened up about myself and was too sensitive for my own good # I gave her a few grand for a Christmas present (it took 6 months of saving) she was initially happy but a few months later said she would rather had had the money for a holiday rather than clearing her debt and helping her to get a house. # I was too intense for her (I think if you love somebody and you will never see them again, I think it is ok to be tense) But that would explain she was not tense, she felt nothing for me. She has painted me as somebody I am not. I put up with her anger and she has been recently diagnosed as bipolar. I want to tell her I loved her and did the things I did for her because I cared. But she has made me the villain, how can I move on? comments would be welcome
Beautiful Inside Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 wow i am too guilty of lashing out and saying the most ugly horrible things to my ex's i think we like to pass the blame guilt and other anger issues on to our best friends....our real s/o best friends though...i dunno why i wish there was an explanation of how we can be so mean and ugly to the people who love and care for us you know....why do we get so irritable at times or just snap all your anger and frustration out to them .....it just never seems to amaze me anymore....i've done pretty nasty things out of anger not proud of it just saying....i'm sry you had to hear all these things just know and understand it was solely out of anger and her own issues she's dealing with.
Author gavinus Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 thanks for your reply, she has not even said sorry, and she never will.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 dont be surprised she might just come around even when you least suspect it... and you are very welcome my love. take care
chrissreef Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 "# I needed to be more outgoing and get more friends and my personality was one she could never fully accept." Mine said that too... i didn't realize the # of friends i have impacted my relationships. kinda of unfair since i met her 3 months after moving to the city. bleh... anyway, good luck!
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