Art_Critic Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I open each door for my wife.. including the door to the house.. and I always will.. showing her nice respectful manners is all part of being a grown up.. I also do the same for my Mom and my Sisters as well as any woman in my life.. personal or work .. About the only time I won't or can't is when it just doesn't make any sense to.. ie: if she gets to her side of the car before I can then I won't have her wait while I come around.. What is cool is when you open the car door for a woman and then while you are walking around to your door and she opens it for you from the inside..then you know you have a keeper There are other threads on LS about this same subject...
runner Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 What is cool is when you open the car door for a woman and then while you are walking around to your door and she opens it for you from the inside yep. huge turn on for me
lovestruck818 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 whoa ! A man can still be nice and respected w/o being chivalrous.
OpenBook Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 What is your view on a guy opening a car door for a lady on a date? Foreplay, baby!! :bunny: Especially when he narrows his eyes and discreetly looks down at me easing myself into the seat. Oh yeah.
Art_Critic Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Foreplay, baby!! :bunny: Especially when he narrows his eyes and discreetly looks down at me easing myself into the seat. Oh yeah. so later he can ease himself into your seat ... hahaha
kashmir Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I feel awkward when I go through a doorway before ANY woman, let alone one I know or am even dating. When there are a bunch of people it's different, but if I'm going into a place and there's one or two girls behind me, I'll open the door and let them in first. I would probably open the car door for a woman if we're GOING to the car, but if we park somewhere and I get out, walk around, and open it while she sits in her seat, then that seems a bit too old fashioned.
OpenBook Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 so later he can ease himself into your seat ... hahaha Only after he proves to me that he is fully aware of how EXTREMELY LUCKY he is to be there.:D:D
Lizzie60 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If he opens the door.. I think it's cute.. If he doesn't .. it's OK.. I have two arms.. I can still open my doors myself.. Either way it's OK.. If I see that the guy is trying too hard.. like almost running to open the door of the restaurant.. helping me with my coat.. then helping me with my chair.. then running.... and so on.. he will get on my nerves..
lovestruck818 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If he opens the door.. I think it's cute.. If he doesn't .. it's OK.. I have two arms.. I can still open my doors myself.. Either way it's OK.. If I see that the guy is trying too hard.. like almost running to open the door of the restaurant.. helping me with my coat.. then helping me with my chair.. then running.... and so on.. he will get on my nerves.. yes...that's what I was kind of getting at
Souhait Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 A man can still be nice and respected w/o being chivalrous. I have to agree with what Lovestruck has said. I know a couple of you have said that women are wackos who don't appreciate that sort of thing. That is just silly. I treat my man with respect and he treats me with respect. That doesn't mean I can't open doors by myself. Women can be independent and still be in a loving relationship, you know.
yongyong Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 opening door is no big deal as long as she treats me like a king on the bed agreed everyone?
johan Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Women can be independent and still be in a loving relationship, you know. I assume you really meant that a woman can be independent and still be in a "loving" relationship. Subtle but important difference.
bella23 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 a gentleman always opens the car door for a lady. No exceptions. Agreed! It's not an overkill... well I found it weird at first when my bf does it. He opens the car door, restaurant, anything that has a door... I have to say from feeling weird to liking it now... I feel like a princess
colosseum Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I know a couple of you have said that women are wackos who don't appreciate that sort of thing. That is just silly. I treat my man with respect and he treats me with respect. That doesn't mean I can't open doors by myself. Women can be independent and still be in a loving relationship, you know. I agree, excessive "chivalry" can be a bit gross. And you're right, men opening doors for women doesn't mean you can't open doors by yourselves. But I think it's ridiculous when that act somehow becomes this perpetuation of chauvinistic male hierarchy. Men don't do it (well, I don't anyway) because we think women are helpless creatures or not worthy of respect--that's absurd--we do it out of courtesy, right? I just think it's unfair when women interpret guys opening doors for them as some malicious weapon of sexism. Come on, the guy's just opening a door for you! Frankly, I think Dave Chappelle said it best: "Chivalry is dead. And women killed it." And I'm not some male chauvinist, please; I respect women just as I would any other human being!! I'm just saying let's try to cool our jets when we start to flip out at that guy who is opening the door for you out of courtesy. (sorry--speaking from personal experience) Either way, why do I feel like I'm going to get it now from a lot of the LSers...:eek: I meant no harm; just my 2 cents.
Trialbyfire Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Any guy who shows some form of innate courtesy, gets major brownie points from me. It's one of those things that I find incredibly appealing. Even small gestures are sweet and much appreciated. I've had complete strangers help me with directions while standing there looking lost, men who've helped me with heavy boxes, things on top shelves, my luggage, opening doors, shoveling my car out while stuck in the snow (), the list goes on and on. These are things that add up and stick in your mind, as pleasant memories associated with men of this calibre.
pollywag Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 You're right Colosseum, women are killing chivalry. In particular the types of women who have to always prove something to the world about their independence when a man simply acts as a man. I adore it when a man opens the car door. It's a beautiful act that makes me feel very coquettish and sexy. It's hot!
lovestruck818 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Any guy who shows some form of innate courtesy, gets major brownie points from me. It's one of those things that I find incredibly appealing. Even small gestures are sweet and much appreciated. I've had complete strangers help me with directions while standing there looking lost, men who've helped me with heavy boxes, things on top shelves, my luggage, opening doors, shoveling my car out while stuck in the snow (), the list goes on and on. These are things that add up and stick in your mind, as pleasant memories associated with men of this calibre. While all that stuff is nice, for me, I don't want the help...esp. with somethign like boxes. I'm a small girl and if I'm able to carry heavy boxes all by myself it's a sense of accomplishment. I did it myself and feel good about it. Same with the shoveling. I spent an hour one day this winter shoveling my car out. People offered to help but I said no...again when it was done, sense of self-accomplishment. Anything a man can do, I can do it...and probably better.
bayouboi Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Anything a man can do, I can do it...and probably better. cool story bro
bayouboi Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I love to do things for my gf like this. I don't go out of my way, but if we're approaching the car from her side I will more often than not open the door for her. I always try to catch the doors for her going into & out of buildings as well which is pretty easy since I have a huge reach advantage over her ^_^. A woman who doesn't realize that these gestures are meant for showing them how much they are treasured & NOT a way of expressing dominance, is not the type of woman I would want to be with.
BobSacamento Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If a man was raised a certain way he can pull it off and make it seem like it should be common practice and anyone who doesn't do a certain common courtesy is a deadbeat. For the most part men enjoy doing it. And women shouldn't think it's degrading or anything. The way I look at it it's basically a thank you for giving us an opportunity to show you a good time.
carhill Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 My philosophy is simple. I don't care what other men do. I live my life and walk my path and treat women the way I choose to treat them. If other guys see this as being weird and women think it's patronizing or patriarchal and somehow my opening a door is enslaving them or demeaning them, good on them for that outstanding attitude I smile in the knowledge that I don't have to walk their path. Compatibility
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 It's just a nice, polite thing to do. So is opening a door for a woman. Or anyone, for that matter. If I walk into an establishment, I usually hold the door open for the person behind me regardless of gender. I will even hold it open if they are a few steps away. Manners are about putting others at ease, and I wish more people had them!
Shygirl15 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 What is your view on a guy opening a car door for a lady on a date? Like say, for example, when you coming out of a restaurant? I usually open the doors into buildings for my date but never really consistently done the car door thing. Women, is that overkill or do you like that? I expect to be opened all doors at all times, and frankly it may be a deal breaker if he doesn't or stops after a while.
Shygirl15 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If I walk into an establishment, I usually hold the door open for the person behind me regardless of gender. I will even hold it open if they are a few steps away. That, we all do I believe. But when I'm with my date, I will expect him to open the door for me always.
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