fral945 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 What is your view on a guy opening a car door for a lady on a date? Like say, for example, when you coming out of a restaurant? I usually open the doors into buildings for my date but never really consistently done the car door thing. Women, is that overkill or do you like that?
alphamale Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 women like you to open the car door for them, at least on the first four or five dates. after you've had sex you can forget about it...
socialight Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 a gentleman always opens the car door for a lady. No exceptions.
alphamale Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 a gentleman always opens the car door for a lady. No exceptions. what about womens lib?
likestolaugh Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 what about womens lib? although said as a joke, it's partially true. A lot of women feel it's ridiculous for someone else to open a car door for them when it's such a simple easy task. not the same as pushing open a huge heavy store or restaurant door.
runner Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 at the car, i think it's a cute gesture on the first couple dates, and even on some special nights down the road (if you manage to get there). but not something i do in everyday situations.
alphamale Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 but not something i do in everyday situations. indeed, a guy looks like a dork opening her car doors all the time....i would break it down by percentage and relationship type like this: 1 to 5 dates: 100%5 to 10 dates: 50% (assuming sex has taken place)10+ dates: 33%In relationship: 25%Engaged: 20%Married: 0%
Trialbyfire Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Any form of innate courtesy is welcome, so no it's not overkill.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 i love it up!!!! man it really shows like their mamma did a good job raising them. my current bf never did it in the beginning then started to after a couple months which was very off to me lol....i can understand doing it in the beginning then stopping but the other way around i dunno....i dont get it
anne1707 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I think as long as you are not trying to hard, courtesy is a good thing. The car door thing may be a bit much at times but certainly opening the door for a restaurant is good. Consideration for someone else goes a long way.
Author fral945 Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 at the car, i think it's a cute gesture on the first couple dates, and even on some special nights down the road (if you manage to get there). but not something i do in everyday situations. Well, I'm going on a date tomorrow with a girl who I know likes me a lot and I think I am starting to feel the same way. I have a romantic evening planned, so I think it would be a good idea to do it in this situation.
thegoodlife Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I think it's alright once in a while, but not every single time. I went on a date with a guy who insisted on opening every single door we went through as well as the car door. We went for a walk by the river, dinner, movies, and for ice cream so there were many doors and we were in and out of the car many times. At the end of the night he didn't want to to walk back to his car with him, he wanted me to stand at the curb and wait for him to drive over and pick me up at it. It was just ridiculous. Something like that is definitely overkill and I would not like it.
carhill Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 The right woman for me will welcome and appreciate such gentlemanly courtesies.
socialight Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 carhill is correct. Courtesy and manners are effortless. They are not "trying too hard" nor do they come accross that way when done correctly. It's a reaction, not a planned gimmic. Some women find it silly at first, and some feminist wackos may take offense, but a gentleman ALWAYS holds a car door for a lady, no exceptions, and any girl worth her salt will come to appreciate being treated in a such a dignified, feminine manner.
Trialbyfire Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If it's not innate, it will stop happening. Nothing worse than someone who pretends to have manners at the beginning, then....forgets...after awhile.
carhill Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 My wife and I compromised. She opens her own door to exit the car and I open it when we arrive at the car. I never even give it a second thought, except when reading threads such as this. I have found that women socialized into and by the knuckle-draggers amongst us seem to fight such considerations. During dating, such revelations were generally a red flag for me. That said, some women (friends and dates) warm to the idea and ultimately enjoy it. I do it for women in general, no matter where. I also stow women's luggage on aircraft when I see a need. Good exercise on mileage runs
collegekid491 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 a gentleman always opens the car door for a lady. No exceptions. Unless of course she beats you to it lol. Some girls just simply aren't used to chivalry, in these cases hop on that door handle like a fat kid on a smarty lol
johan Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I do it if it's convenient. I try not to race her to the car though. If she gets to the door first, then she can open it for herself. If it upsets her, then she has problems.
likestolaugh Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I do it if it's convenient. I try not to race her to the car though. If she gets to the door first, then she can open it for herself. If it upsets her, then she has problems. ....bingo!!
lovestruck818 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 What is your view on a guy opening a car door for a lady on a date? Like say, for example, when you coming out of a restaurant? I usually open the doors into buildings for my date but never really consistently done the car door thing. Women, is that overkill or do you like that? I hate it. I can open my own door, thank you very much. I don't need the help of a man. Yet another attempt for a man to show he is "better." Chivalry is disgusting.
runner Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I think it's alright once in a while, but not every single time. I went on a date with a guy who insisted on opening every single door we went through as well as the car door. and this is where you say, "thanks, Jeeves!" if he doesn't see the humour, well, hmm.
Isolde Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 That kind of thing is cute on the first couple dates. A guy that respects women yet occasionally acts as if they are helpless, will be very successful. I agree that in a LTR, it's best reserved for special date nights.
anne1707 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I do it if it's convenient. I try not to race her to the car though. If she gets to the door first, then she can open it for herself. If it upsets her, then she has problems. This is so spot on. If it flows then go for it but if you have to make some over the top effort, it just ends ups as contrived or patronising. No good for either of you.
collegekid491 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I hate it. I can open my own door, thank you very much. I don't need the help of a man. Yet another attempt for a man to show he is "better." Chivalry is disgusting. Its not so much you 'need the help of a man' as an unselfish act, putting the needs of someone else before your own. We typically chug beer and have tinkle contests to prove we are better lmao
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