darby1 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 OKay. This is going to sound crazy, but, I still want my ex back. He treated me so aweful at times, and made me so sad that all of my friends celebrated our break up. I have been happier too after healing this past year.. I don't miss the tears at all. BUt somewhere in my stupid head, I feel this scenario saying to him.. "ok ok ok, long enough, can we get back together now?" See, we broke up and got back together so many times, I lost count. We needed to split because it became emotionally unhealthy. So, as I am aware of all this and how pathetic it is... Why do I still want him back?? We spoke once in the past year. HE has a whole new girlfriend! I have been dating and like being treated better. But it is as if over the 6 years that we were involved together, I convinced myself that he and I were this unbeatable force that would never die. A fairytale if you would! As if west side story, romeo and juliet, cinderella and snow white are my manual for exsistence! I truely believed he was my forever and as much as I hated him, I loved him so much I would have stayed sad forever just to keep him as mine. OKay.. so.. uhhh. WTF is wrong with me?? At the same time, I am dating this new guy, I like him very much, but I find myself afraid to get involved! I am a mess.. A mess!!! ateast in this relationship dating thang.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 OKay. This is going to sound crazy, but, I still want my ex back. He treated me so aweful at times, and made me so sad that all of my friends celebrated our break up. I have been happier too after healing this past year.. I don't miss the tears at all. BUt somewhere in my stupid head, I feel this scenario saying to him.. "ok ok ok, long enough, can we get back together now?" Wow, he must be really good looking to have someone wrapped around his little finger like that after being a total assmunch to you. I suspect alot of this goes on. Looks over character. So really, if he is a jerk, why do you want him back? For superficial reasons? If so, I can see why alot of guys can get away with being *********s. HE has a whole new girlfriend! I have been dating and like being treated better. Ok so you are going to shun the guys that treat you better for a total jerk?
lovelinefan Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 You have completely romanticized your relationship - I am guilty of this myself - despite all of our problems and faults, I was (am) madly in love, and thought we were destined for a great life together. Not everyone lives in the same romantic land, and some people can't deal with intimacy, fighting, lack of sex, or whatever it may be, and they have to put themselves and their partner through the agony of a breakup. I don't know they do it, but some people have the ability to never look back.
Author darby1 Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 I thought he was hot, but none of my girlfriends did.. so as far as the looks goes, it's very relative. What I miss are not his looks, my new guy is much better looking to the mass.. I just had a connection with my ex that ran deep even in the bad times. He felt like family to me. At least that's what I thought, proven now to be all in my head! When I am with my new guy, I roll over and wish he were my ex. I just can't believe after all this time apart, I still miss the jerk and struggle with that he will never be mine after all the time I believed he was. Perhaps the struggle is accepting I successfully diluted myself to believe a fantacy. I die the day he marry's another.. I hope I can be fullfilled by someone else b4 that day comes.. or It will be me, myself and a long week of woes. Wow, he must be really good looking to have someone wrapped around his little finger like that after being a total assmunch to you. I suspect alot of this goes on. Looks over character. So really, if he is a jerk, why do you want him back? For superficial reasons? If so, I can see why alot of guys can get away with being *********s. Ok so you are going to shun the guys that treat you better for a total jerk?
Beautiful Inside Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 OKay. This is going to sound crazy, but, I still want my ex back. He treated me so aweful at times, and made me so sad that all of my friends celebrated our break up. I have been happier too after healing this past year.. I don't miss the tears at all. BUt somewhere in my stupid head, I feel this scenario saying to him.. "ok ok ok, long enough, can we get back together now?" See, we broke up and got back together so many times, I lost count. We needed to split because it became emotionally unhealthy. So, as I am aware of all this and how pathetic it is... Why do I still want him back?? We spoke once in the past year. HE has a whole new girlfriend! I have been dating and like being treated better. But it is as if over the 6 years that we were involved together, I convinced myself that he and I were this unbeatable force that would never die. A fairytale if you would! As if west side story, romeo and juliet, cinderella and snow white are my manual for exsistence! I truely believed he was my forever and as much as I hated him, I loved him so much I would have stayed sad forever just to keep him as mine. OKay.. so.. uhhh. WTF is wrong with me?? At the same time, I am dating this new guy, I like him very much, but I find myself afraid to get involved! I am a mess.. A mess!!! ateast in this relationship dating thang. woo woo woo you mean to tell me that my bf and i aren't bonnie and clyde fairy tale...lol its so funny how you said that you've always thought of your relationship like that cause im in the same situation. i guess we use that as an excuse to stay to put up with getting treated a certain way. i always thought my current bf and i will always be together too especially after everything we've been through to you know you experience all these new things, family time, friends, cooking cleaning, intimate stuff, just living with someone your growing with hem and to think now like omg ill never be apart of their life anymore this is really it were going our separate ways its just like you never thought this day would ever have came like when things were good they were really good so how would you have ever seen this coming right?...i think its normal for you to have these feelings after some time you start to think well they weren't really that bad to me if anything i caused it i was the one always starting the fights or looking for something to fight about maybe if i was just a little nicer or if i did this or that....no you broke it off for a reason just always remember that...
hopesndreams Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Why do I still want him back?? We spoke once in the past year. HE has a whole new girlfriend! I have been dating and like being treated better. Snap out of your illusions of who he is and what he is. He has a girlfriend. Mantra that to yourself if need be. I convinced myself that he and I were this unbeatable force that would never die. It's dead. Time to bury it.
miss-jem-bishop Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 OKay. This is going to sound crazy, but, I still want my ex back. He treated me so aweful at times, and made me so sad that all of my friends celebrated our break up. I have been happier too after healing this past year.. I don't miss the tears at all. BUt somewhere in my stupid head, I feel this scenario saying to him.. "ok ok ok, long enough, can we get back together now?" See, we broke up and got back together so many times, I lost count. We needed to split because it became emotionally unhealthy. So, as I am aware of all this and how pathetic it is... Why do I still want him back?? We spoke once in the past year. HE has a whole new girlfriend! I have been dating and like being treated better. But it is as if over the 6 years that we were involved together, I convinced myself that he and I were this unbeatable force that would never die. A fairytale if you would! As if west side story, romeo and juliet, cinderella and snow white are my manual for exsistence! I truely believed he was my forever and as much as I hated him, I loved him so much I would have stayed sad forever just to keep him as mine. OKay.. so.. uhhh. WTF is wrong with me?? At the same time, I am dating this new guy, I like him very much, but I find myself afraid to get involved! I am a mess.. A mess!!! ateast in this relationship dating thang. Everyone has that person they find so hard to let go of, even i do! you will find it and hard and you and i know you wont forget him but just remember yeah he maybe with her but he will still think about you, and miss you too... people dont admit and some hide feelings more than others but things will get easier its just a case of time, i use to find i use to compare new guys in my life to my ex and well it just eats away at you inside, but i can say keep your chin up ... it will get hard but one day he will see what he could have had, lost and what he is left with! and you will be the one saying why did he mean the world to me... but making someone your world and everything can leave you with nothing sometimes but we make mistakes to learn from them so just becarefull who you let in, take your time and hold your barriers up ... a chance for you wil come but you also gotta remember eveerything happens for a reason ... one door closes and another one opens .... keep busy see friends you may not feel like it but it will help even try gym or night walks just keep active because staying in will make you think more bout everything... soo just remember he will think of you like you do him and keep smiling things will get better! .... x
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