JLee26 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 When we bought our house we were estatic. How did we luck out and end up with such great neighbors? With kids each (all the same age!) and similiar personalities, it was like heaven on earth. But then the flirting started, not on my behalf mind you. First it was just calling me honey, and then bizarre sideways glances, then text messages and no full on sexual inuendos. Over the last 5 years we have all become best of friends, we have dinners together weekly, take our kids to the park together, his wife and i go out for girls night monthly and the boys the same. Our kids are even starting in the same preschool class together. I have talked to my husband about it and he thinks i am over reacting and not to worry, its just eh neighbors way of joking around. but it makes me uncomfortable, and i imagine it has to make his wife uncomfortable as well but then again i dunno, she jokes around to saying her and my husband are "secret dating" (which i KNOW is a joke). am i over reacting or not? and if im not how do i get him to stop?
samspade Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Maybe they are swingers... You may have to tell him, simply, that he is out of line. Are you sure your reactions aren't encouraging him? (Even if you are just being polite, in the long run it's better to be frank.)
2sure Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Since you are friends and neighbors - you are going to have to deal with him for a long time. Tell him: " I know you are just kidding around, and that it may seem harmless, but I have to be honest because you're my friend...it makes me uncomfortable. Lets just stop that."
In Like Flynn Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 If it makes you uncomfortable then tell him to stop. Also ask the wife if she thinks this is just fun!!! That should stop it....unless both have a screw loose. Stand up for yourself....it sounds like your husband won't.
pyroguy Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Maybe they are swingers... You may have to tell him, simply, that he is out of line. Are you sure your reactions aren't encouraging him? (Even if you are just being polite, in the long run it's better to be frank.) Exactly what I was thinking! If they're both acting that way, I wouldn't be surprised at all. I have mixed feelings. If you are really uncomfortable, then you have to say something. However, if they are just flirting with no real intentions, then you feel like an idiot saying anything. Maybe you should should wait it out a bit longer, and see what happens.
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