daniellest Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 My Boyfriend/Bestfriend/friendwithbenefits/boyfriend...(you catch my drift)and I, have been on and off for over a year now. About four months ago I had a drinking/pill problem and he ended the relationship and cut all ties with me. But as soon as I cleaned up and we started talking again, the love was instantly back and after a month went by we got back together. He recently got a new job and wasnt even acting like I existed. After a week of fighting he broke up with me again. Now of course like clockwork hes back in my life. I love him very much and I know he loves me but neither of us have our **** together as far as our home life. When things are going good with our personal life, everything is wonderful. When theres drama going on in our lives individually things are a mess!! Is this all being caused by a case of just bad timing right now?
colosseum Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I love him very much and I know he loves me but neither of us have our **** together as far as our home life. When things are going good with our personal life, everything is wonderful. When theres drama going on in our lives individually things are a mess!! Is this all being caused by a case of just bad timing right now? I don't know enough about this situation and just how much "love" there really is, but in my opinion, to say it's a case of "just bad timing" would be a very generous way of looking at the situation. Heard of the saying "when the going gets tough the tough gets going"? Well, when the going gets tough, your boy does not get going; he drops off the face of the earth, only to come back to you when it (seemingly) is convenient for him. No, if it were real love, he'd have the balls to stick with you through thick and thin and fight through the bullcrap. But he doesn't. daniellest, look DEEP inside your heart and tell yourself that you really want to keep going through this. The good times are always good, of COURSE, but when you're in the shi**er and he's not there with you, don't you wish it would all just stop? I don't know you personally, but daniellest, you should be treating yourself better than this. And in this case, only you can make that happen; it hurts, it sucks, it rips your heart out, we all know that, but please move on from this guy. It's only going to get harder if you keep this up. If I came off a bit too strongly, it's 1) nothing personal and 2) probably because I speak from experience, and it usually ultimately doesn't end up that great--actually, quite badly. Just my 2cents; hope all works out for you.
semi spritzer Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 How old are you folks? You sound young and hopefully you are. This sounds like a scenario you should get out of, no joy for either here. The person you love should be there for you in tough times too. Believe me you feel like S*** when they're not. It's YOUR self esteem going, no one elses. Ask yourself what do you want from him? Can he deliver it? If you think he is worth it have a heart to heart. I am in a situation 7 years, am over 35 and can tell you it's not fun. Do yourself a favour and disentangle yourself while you can. Good luck
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