Brady_to_Moss Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I feel as if i am content to never have a GF in the next 5-6 years. I am 20 yrs old and i dont feel like being tied down to someone. I have to enjoy what the world and life has to offer. No drama. Have you ever hit a point in your life where you really dont care about having a SO? I am so content on being alone and enjoying what i do, when i want to do it. I a few friends who i am always with and they feel the same. Maybe its becasue we are in college and we just want fun haha I have said on here before that i am lonely and want a GF, but now that i think of it, thats not the truth. Yea it does get lonley not to have sexual relations with someone, but its not all about that to me and i love that trait about me.
Lizzie60 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I didn't say that when I was your age.. but now... I do.. I am totally content with being single.. but that doesn't mean I have a sexless life.. I have more sex now than I ever have when I was in a relationship.. PLUS I have variety.. which is the best part..
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I feel as if i am content to never have a GF in the next 5-6 years. I am 20 yrs old and i dont feel like being tied down to someone. I have to enjoy what the world and life has to offer. No drama. Have you ever hit a point in your life where you really dont care about having a SO? I am so content on being alone and enjoying what i do, when i want to do it. I a few friends who i am always with and they feel the same. Maybe its becasue we are in college and we just want fun haha I have said on here before that i am lonely and want a GF, but now that i think of it, thats not the truth. Yea it does get lonley not to have sexual relations with someone, but its not all about that to me and i love that trait about me. I like it but then again I'm an extremely private person now a days in real life I don't even care if I have many friends which I don't anymore maybe I'm a weirdo or a crazy cat lady in the making MEOW lol...
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 I have more sex now than I ever have when I was in a relationship.. PLUS I have variety.. which is the best part.. Really? IMO its becasue you are a women and women can get sex a lot easier then men can no matter how you slice it. Most guys i know have more sex in a relationship compared to not with someone. Now that i think of it, girls are the opposite. Its so dam easy for you ladies
Lizzie60 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Really? IMO its becasue you are a women and women can get sex a lot easier then men can no matter how you slice it. Most guys i know have more sex in a relationship compared to not with someone. Now that i think of it, girls are the opposite. Its so dam easy for you ladies I know.. and now that you mention it.. it's true a lot of MM have more sex than the single ones.. isn't it strange..
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 I know.. and now that you mention it.. it's true a lot of MM have more sex than the single ones.. isn't it strange.. If you are a lady and you are decent in the look department, you can have physical relations any time you choose. I like to think of myself as a good looking guy in some ways, yet its so hard. I just dont know why you girls have it the way you do. Is it just society? Not to bash or say anything bad about you ladies, but i just dont think its fair and some girls i know flaunt it becase they know they can get it and put down guys just to see them squirm. I know life isnt fair. Its just....strange that girls have it easy in this department.
carhill Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Yes I was content with being single for a long time. TBH, I'll likely be less content with it as a divorced person, but I can say I'm much more particular about who I will share my personal space with now (home), even on a temporary basis. That's a fundamental change marriage has brought. Looking around at a lot of large, mostly empty spaces does bring a bit of a smile (no more mess) and a bit of sadness (symbols of memories and good times now gone). It is comfortable though, so I guess that says something.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 you just haven't found someone special yet or you'd never want to be single again after once you've experience how a person can love and adore you so much i guarantee you'll never ever want to be single again believe that! waking up everyday having your best friend right next to you not having to deal with the lying cheating drama im talking about real love here loyalty trust everything..... doing everything you love together you always want that person with you no matter what your doing.... its the best thing in the wold world i wouldn't ever trade it in for anything. having a relationship is so much more then just sex, trust me after years of being married and when you get old and your looks go away what is left....just that same person that you had fell in love with in the beginning so you guys really have to click and really be like best friends. im sorry but i loved being single when i was 18-22 it was great and all i had my drunken wild nights, i just met someone and forgot about everything completely didn't want to go out ever night didnt want to be drinking partying every weekend you know but when i do go out i always want my man to be there i love him so much i cant stand to be away from him you know and you'll be where im at once you meet someone you really fall for trust me.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted March 21, 2009 Author Posted March 21, 2009 you just haven't found someone special yet or you'd never want to be single again after once you've experience how a person can love and adore you so much i guarantee you'll never ever want to be single again believe that! waking up everyday having your best friend right next to you not having to deal with the lying cheating drama im talking about real love here loyalty trust everything..... doing everything you love together you always want that person with you no matter what your doing.... its the best thing in the wold world i wouldn't ever trade it in for anything. having a relationship is so much more then just sex, trust me after years of being married and when you get old and your looks go away what is left....just that same person that you had fell in love with in the beginning so you guys really have to click and really be like best friends. im sorry but i loved being single when i was 18-22 it was great and all i had my drunken wild nights, i just met someone and forgot about everything completely didn't want to go out ever night didnt want to be drinking partying every weekend you know but when i do go out i always want my man to be there i love him so much i cant stand to be away from him you know and you'll be where im at once you meet someone you really fall for trust me. Thats great you feel that way! I would one day to like to feel that. Your are right, i havent met anyone that special in my life yet to "love" them in my 20 years of being on this earth. I am just saying i am happy with what i have in not being with a SO. But if the right girl for me came along, i wouldnt pass her up just becasue i want to be single. I will just have to wait and see!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If you are a lady and you are decent in the look department, you can have physical relations any time you choose. I like to think of myself as a good looking guy in some ways, yet its so hard. I just dont know why you girls have it the way you do. Is it just society? Not to bash or say anything bad about you ladies, but i just dont think its fair and some girls i know flaunt it becase they know they can get it and put down guys just to see them squirm. I know life isnt fair. Its just....strange that girls have it easy in this department. I agree Brady for the most part its not really that hard for women cause guys are always willing for easy sex with pretty much any one who will put out women aren't thats why we can pick and choose which guy allot of the time I guess..
griffy Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I am SICK of being single! It's been 9 months and I am SO ready for a relationship. At first being single was fine, but now I can't imagine being single for much longer. I'm 30 and I'd like to be married and have children. I've accomplished just about everything I've wanted to, except for finding a man. (I can't even find a man I like enough to date or sleep with. It's slim pickins' out there! At least where I live.) That being said, I wouldn't kill myself or fall into a deep depression if I didn't meet someone. I would just prefer to be in a relationship.
Isolde Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 It's important to be ok with being single for long periods of time, even as long as 5 or 10 years. Good relationships between truly compatible individuals are few and far between. I've never been in a relationship and probably won't be for a long time. I know I most likely won't be single forever, but it could take a long time. For that reason, I have to force myself not to expect anything to happen. That's the hardest part--being content single comes easily to me, but not having high hopes for anything happening soon--that's difficult.
Hi.P.O'Crit Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I don't know if I'm content with being single. I think I am. I have good days and bad days. There are far fewer bad days now. Then there will be something that reminds me and I'll be lost for a short while again. I've been single for near 7 years now. My experiences with relationships is minimal. What I've seen I liked. But it feels like something that is just out of reach. I've grown tired of reaching. It's gotten easier just not to look. To not expect anything from any encounter. I sometimes wish I didn't feel so comfortable.
Isolde Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 I don't know if I'm content with being single. I think I am. I have good days and bad days. There are far fewer bad days now. Then there will be something that reminds me and I'll be lost for a short while again. I've been single for near 7 years now. My experiences with relationships is minimal. What I've seen I liked. But it feels like something that is just out of reach. I've grown tired of reaching. It's gotten easier just not to look. To not expect anything from any encounter. I sometimes wish I didn't feel so comfortable. If you're comfortable, then you're probably fairly content. If you're at a place where you aren't constantly battling inner tensions, then you're content. That being said, it's a good thing to be able to say "I'd be happier if I were in a relationship", to be honest, with yourself. This is the balance I'm aiming for.
D-Lish Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If you are a lady and you are decent in the look department, you can have physical relations any time you choose. BUT...and it's a BIG BUT....One needs to be discerning. I don't want to have sex just "because" it's available. I haven't had any sex in quite a while... 100% because I choose not to. I haven't met anyone I want to have sex with! Sure, it would be easy to get laid... but believe me- A guy at a bar could pick up some needy sloppy girl at last call too. In all honesty- I think you have to adopt the attitude that you are okay with being alone before you are ready to enter into a relationship. If you can't embrace your independant self, knowing you have the capacity to make yourself happy.... what can you offer another person besides a dependance on their love for your own validation...? When you're really comfortable with yourself and where you are at in your life- you have all that much more to offer someone else. You'll also attract more worthy partners.
Hi.P.O'Crit Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If you're comfortable, then you're probably fairly content. If you're at a place where you aren't constantly battling inner tensions, then you're content. That being said, it's a good thing to be able to say "I'd be happier if I were in a relationship", to be honest, with yourself. This is the balance I'm aiming for. That makes sense. I probably agree with you. But there's an unidentifiable irritation in that comfort. EDIT: Maybe the bold part is the irritation.
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