sandra75 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I´m not afraid of commitment. I can be committed and focused and loving and all but mostly always to people I think need my help on an emotional level, or aren´t that good a partner to be with or just generally have some catch that makes them unfit for a really healthy and loving and equal and giving relationship. Sooo, at the moment I´m in the beginning stages of getting together with a handsome, well-established, nice, kind, intelligent man who really likes me and the other way round - and I´m TERRIFIED. Of not being good enough, of him not really being interested (as soon as he finds out I´m not good enough), of - I don´t know.... My brain knows that´s bs, but some part of my inner being seems to think like that... any suggestions? :-(
redant Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Be yourself. Know that he may or may not like you, but if you are ok with yoursef that's what matters. I know how you feel though. I can get like that myself and then I post here! You have to get to know him too! How do you know he's so great? Also take deep breaths that helps! When you feel terrified.
colosseum Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I second the posts above. Enjoy who you are, and though the saying "it's not you, it's [whoever else]", you can't deny that these things are, afterall, a 2-way street; it's not always about you (not meaning it pejoratively) or your faults. So enjoy what you have going now, be yourself, enjoy being yourself and in turn getting to know yourself better, and of course get to know him better! Best of luck to you! PS: But I know that feeling; we all want to speculate, and it sucks but sometimes we just got to push ignore what our doubts tell us.
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