Kamille Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 This doesn't really belong in the coping section since I'm very much over the guy - but I don't really see where else to put this. I can't really pin point why, but lately I've been feeling like giving my ex a shout. Yes, the very same ex who dumped me and then made it a point to tell me just how in love he was with his new gf the last time I felt the urge to write to him (last fall). What I want to say to him: Hi, how are you? I've been watching XY tv show which I think you would really like. What's up with you? Hope you're still having a great time in XYZ city. No, even I don't understand why this urge keeps popping up, but in the last few weeks it's been really strong. I always stop myself by reminding myself that he kind of made it really clear in our last contact that he didn't want to keep in touch with me. Nor would I like to be involved with him again. Can of worms better left closed. So what gives?
Trialbyfire Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 You're curious about how his life is going. I think there's a part of you that wants to know if it's not going so well and if he regrets anything, particularly letting the relationship go.
Author Kamille Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 You're curious about how his life is going. I think there's a part of you that wants to know if it's not going so well and if he regrets anything, particularly letting the relationship go. Maybe. I am definitely curious about how his life is going. He was starting a new job after a year spent in a job he hated. I don't think I would want him to be doing badly. But maybe his last message was too everything-is-paradise for me to accept it at face value. And yes, a part of me will always wish that a part of him regrets letting the relationship go, just a little bit. All my other exes did at one point:laugh:. He's the first to have left and stayed out.
Trialbyfire Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Sooner or later Kamille, they all come back! 1
kizik Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I get these urges to contact my ex, too. It's pretty normal. I just remind myself that only pain would come from doing so.
Ariadne Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 So what gives? Spring is coming and you have nobody. Especially after camping guy etc.
Author Kamille Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 Sooner or later Kamille, they all come back! Well that's been my experience, but I'm starting to think this one will be the exception to the rule. Ah well. I get these urges to contact my ex, too. It's pretty normal. I just remind myself that only pain would come from doing so. I don't think pain would come out of it anymore - but I know it would feed his ego. When we were together, he pulled the same stuff on his ex. If she wrote or called it was because she was so obviously still so into him sexually. The annoying thing is that coupled with wanting to get in touch with him, I have been having these weird dreams about him. I just had one last night where I was meeting his new gf -who was incredibly nice - who was breaking up with him. In the dream he also hit on me and I refused. I'm friends with all my exes - but the dream kind of made me realize there is no way I could be friend with him. I'm supposed to be forever in love with him. Spring is coming and you have nobody. Especially after camping guy etc. Good point Ariadne. I have been fantasizing about romance lately. I crush on almost every man I meet. Sooner or later someone will come along. How are you doing A?
Ariadne Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 How are you doing A? Doing just fine. Maybe I'll try and get in shape now that Spring is coming. But no romance for me either. I get it though.
EmperorR Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Ah I always get those urges, but then I always remmeber how i felt for like 6 months, thanks but no thanks:).
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