Rogue52 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Quick Background: My fiancee and I were together for 6 years and getting married in May. She ended up cheating on me and moved out back in January. One month after moving out she told me she was pregnant with the guy. I had to contact my ex-fiancee today to tell her the final amount she owes me on the family plan for our cell phones. I just sent a brief email providing a detailed account of how I determined how much she owed me. Other than that, I just said "thanks for working with me through this." I just got an email back saying thanks for the detailed description and asking me what else she owed me money for. She then starts asking questions about my life. How am I doing? How is spring break going? Saying she was surprised she hadn't heard from me but wasn't contacting me because she figured I wanted her to leave me alone. We haven't seen each other for over 4 weeks. We talked on the phone very briefly 2 weeks ago but it was strictly over money owed to me. I haven't contacted her because I feel horrible every time I do. I want to talk/see her everyday. So, what do I do? Do I even respond? If I do respond, do I keep it strictly business? Or do I say, "I haven't contacted you because it hurts too much?" In the past few months I would have sent a brief email back, but I don't even know if that is a good idea anymore. I just don't want to be in pain everyday anymore.
kizik Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 No response. This girl f*cking hurt you badly and now she expects you to tell her all about your life? F*ck that. Ignore.
SRV Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 By the way, why do you still have a family plan together? I would not even ask her for the money for the bill, I would seperate the phone plans. Do not respond, do not email/text her back, you said that she is pregnant, you need to move on and start healing and have absolutely no contact with her. GL.
gavinus Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Be strong! Do not contact her. By talking to her you are saying it was ok for her to treat you like dirt. My ex dumped me, I spoke to her....it helped her to move on. Stay NC. give yourself time to heal
kizik Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Yeah I agree. She just wants an ego feed. It makes me SO MAD to see women (OR men) sh*tting on their significant others, then coming back a month later talking about, "How ARE you? What are you up to? BTW, I'm pregnant as the result of my affair!" My response would be, "F*ck you, I hate you, never contact me again." And with that I give you my 1700th post.
Juno Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Sorry to hear about your breakup. So far it sounds like you have been handling the contact with your ex well...keeping it strictly business. I would continue to do so. So much has been posted about no contact, and let me state from first hand experience it's the best/only way to go. It will still hurt like hell, but it will ultimately result in some good. Continuing to contact your ex and indulge her inquiries will result in nothing but further heartache. In your situation, the path has been laid...she is expecting a child with the other guy, there can be no room for a reconciliation at this point. It's all too messy to try to figure out where you fit in this situation. Stay strong, don't look back, move on and find happiness elsewhere.
SRV Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Yeah I agree. She just wants an ego feed. It makes me SO MAD to see women (OR men) sh*tting on their significant others, then coming back a month later talking about, "How ARE you? What are you up to? BTW, I'm pregnant as the result of my affair!" My response would be, "F*ck you, I hate you, never contact me again." Kizik, not to TJ, but I had a buddy that was in the same situation, told her never to contact him again. She could not believe it, she gave birth and a year later her and the dude that she messed around with were in court fighting over child support. Rogue, be glad she is out of your life. She would have cheated anyway, be glad you did not get married and the only thing to sort out is the phone bill. If I were you, I would totally disappear from her life, let her wonder what happened to you.
Author Rogue52 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 By the way, why do you still have a family plan together? The plans were separated back in February. This was the final bill where she owed me money. Everyone -- Thanks for your responses. I won't respond.
gavinus Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Good for you!!!!!! Stay strong. It makes me happy that my mistakes I have made with my ex can actually help others to not make the same ones with theirs, You are worth more, well done
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