torranceshipman Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Hi guys, So I've been dating someone for about 6 or 7 weeks, and we see eachother about once aweek..nice slow pace (I think so anyway)...he bought up the relationship talk about 3 weeks ago...all going good. I did question a few things but Loveshackers gave me good advice and I stopped worrying, lol - and it's all been going great since then. However....last friday we had plans, he had to cancel because of work, and called and left a long and really nice voicemail apologising and asking if I could call him as he wanted to speak in person about it...I emailed instead as I was oo busy to call, and we ended up missing eachother to speak on the phone in the end. Anyways, he had to fly the following day at the crack of dawn and go off on a big work trip, then was back late tues, so I figured I'd probably hear from him wed or thurs (today) but nothing yet, despite my sending him a quick and casual email yesterday saying it'd be fun to catch up soon, maybe the weekend? He works very late most nights, its a new job (finance too, so not a great arena to be in at the moment) and I guess 2 days out of the office will mean a mountain of work to come back to, so maybe that is why he hasnt been in touch yet. So...my question is - I am pissed that I have not heard from him yet. Is that completely unfair of me, or do I have a case to be unhappy about this? I figured I could just be straight up and call, but then again, theres that tiresome 'dont look too keen' deal in the early days of dating, so maybe not. What do you guys think?
laRubiaBonita Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 i would call. why would you be pissed? you were the one that did not return the favor of calling him initially... you sent an email.
Author torranceshipman Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 You are right....but I did eventually return his call friday night, he let it go to voicemail, and then texted straight back that he was still in the office, totally under it, and couldnt pick up my call right then as a result, so he would call later that night, but I didnt end up getting a call...I didnt worry too much about that at the time, as I figured it was just too awkward because of work etc...
laRubiaBonita Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 well, let's just hope he is not petty and not calling cause you didn't call..... we will give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he is just busy at the moment
Author torranceshipman Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 Maybe...wonder if I should just pick up the phone? He seems generally quite cool but you could be right - I've not known him long at all. Mind ou, sounds like an interested guy if he'd get that mad over me not returning a call instantly..!
laRubiaBonita Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 i would just call.... and leave a message, if need be, maybe saying you hope he had a good trip... and see if he wants to reschedule those plans...
Author torranceshipman Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 I ended up leaving brief VM to say hi and how was your trip last night, and he got in touch today via email to say he got back from the work trip and is completely snowed under at work, will have to go to a work function tonight, then has to get a mountain of work done this weekend (being out of the office caused a backlog). Then asked what my weekend plans were and hoped that all is well with me. All sounds straight up...guess that means it is improbable that we'll see eachother this weekend, though. I do understand work prioritization, especially with his crazy job and he sounds pretty focused... Ugh, but then again, it's this early days bit that is a pain in the ass - to know truly whether it IS just work or if he's being avoidant for some other reason? Should I just cut this dude some slack? I really have a problem reading these things (and have no problem being called out for being unfair, etc, I just am not good at reading these situations!).
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