huck Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Its been 3 weeks since my ex left - 2 since she confirmed it was over. When she left she told me that she still loved me and maybe one day when she sorts her head out we can be together. She said if we are meant to be together then it will happen. Anyway - whatever that BS means - i dont know and dont really care. My question is - imagine 6 months down the line you have moved on and got over the heartbreak then he/she contacts you to say they made a mistake and want to try again.. Just imagine you were seeing a new partner at the time and your ex brought all those feelings back of what you had and once loved. Maybe you had stronger feelings for your ex than your current partner - would you be cruel enough to break things off and go back with your ex. Im sure everyone at the same stage of the break up as me is feeling the same emotions - hurt, anger, missing your ex etc - but could you hurt someone else just to please your feelings. Im not saying I would and dont think I could hurt someone that way. Would also be in the back of my head that they might do it again in the future.. Has anyway been in this situation ??
lovelinefan Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I am in basically the same situation as you, just 1 week in instead of 3. She told me today that she is going to move out. I would like to think that 6 months down the road, I will be a different and better person, and I may realize by then that we shouldn't actually be together - but I don't really know. Right now, all I know is the pain of not having her here, so it is hard to think about the future. If I had moved on enough to start a new relationship, I think I would be at the point where I no longer want her back, and I am not pining for her constantly - if I wasn't past that point, it obviously wouldn't be fair to the other person in a new relationship yet. It's like drug addicts - they are told to not dive into relationships right away, and instead work on themselves first. If you've worked on yourself enough to be strong in a new relationship, then you hopefully won't look back.
EmperorR Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 No way, I'm not a backup or a light switch you can turn on and off, plus I have dignity, I worked way to hard to get where I am to ever go back to cheating filth ". My ex fiancé also told me she loved me while she was having butterflies for some herb at her school all bs. To much people in he world who have never hurt me to ever give someone who hurt me more than anyone has another chance.
kimbop Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 I think this is my new motto. "First time shame on him/her (the dumper)" "The second time, shame on you (the dumpee) for taking that a**clown back." What's to say the dumper won't transform into a jacka** again? And if the dumper initiates the second chance knowing you have someone else and knowing that it would disrupt your chance of happily-ever-after with that someone else, then that dumper is a selfish pr**k.
Hersheys Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 My question is - imagine 6 months down the line you have moved on and got over the heartbreak then he/she contacts you to say they made a mistake and want to try again.. Just imagine you were seeing a new partner at the time and your ex brought all those feelings back of what you had and once loved. Maybe you had stronger feelings for your ex than your current partner - would you be cruel enough to break things off and go back with your ex. IF in 6 months you have moved on or have met someone else, I think any contact from your ex would be nothing but just an annoyance to you. Maybe it'll give you a slight ego boost BUT really at that point you'd be too busy living your life or falling in love with someone else that none of what your ex says matters to you anymore.
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