Meaplus3 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I was just thinking today how much as a parent you have to sacrifice. I mean really when your raising kids they are the single most imprtant thing in your life. Each and everyday you need to make decisions and with each and every decision you make your having an inpact on your childs life in one way or another. For exmaple: My 6 year old daughter came home from school yesterday and told me that another first grader that rides her bus wrote her a message on her little ds thingy and used the words S*X and FU. She was very taken back by this. So, I told her she did the right thing by telling me and that it was wrong of the child to write those things. Then after sleeping on it, this bothered me more and more. I made the decision to call the Principle of the school. I have never had to do that before but in this case I felt it was needed. He was very nice and told me they take things like this in a very serious way. He asked my permission to speak with my daughter, of course I gave it. He located the child, spoke to him and phoned the parents. He informed me that my daughter told him with ease about what happened and thet he was proud of her for telling an adult. He then told me the other parents were stunned and the child will be in trouble. Also, the child will not be suspended from riding the bus for a few days. Now, I know I did the right thing but I feel bad in a way. I have a feeling my daughter will come home and lay it on me but good for telling on the kid. I worry she will now be made fun of?? But in my heart I feel I did what was right. So I guess my question is how do you know you've made the right decesion?? And For those who have made decisons how did the outcome of your decision affect your child? Mea:)
2sure Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I think about these things all the time. When my daughter was little I would make the same kinds of phone calls you just did. You have to because, it does take a village. It could easily have been (and probably will be!) one day YOU getting the call. And you will be greatful for it so that you can address it. Right? But now she is 13. When she has a problem at school, which she sometimes does - I ask her. Do you want me to help you handle this? More and more, she is able to handle things on her own. Its tough stuff. Recently she told me about a girl at school who has been cutting herself. She found out accidentally. We talked about the whole "it takes a village" thing and she decided to tell the girl's guidance counselor about it. The girl suspects it was my daughter who told. I'm proud to say my daughter still thinks she did the right thing.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Mea, I'm sure you did the right thing. Certainly you would want to know if it was your 1st grader using those words. If your daughter feels betrayed by you telling the principal then explain to her that you were trying to help his parents to help him.
Author Meaplus3 Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 I think about these things all the time. When my daughter was little I would make the same kinds of phone calls you just did. You have to because, it does take a village. It could easily have been (and probably will be!) one day YOU getting the call. And you will be greatful for it so that you can address it. Right? But now she is 13. When she has a problem at school, which she sometimes does - I ask her. Do you want me to help you handle this? More and more, she is able to handle things on her own. Its tough stuff. Recently she told me about a girl at school who has been cutting herself. She found out accidentally. We talked about the whole "it takes a village" thing and she decided to tell the girl's guidance counselor about it. The girl suspects it was my daughter who told. I'm proud to say my daughter still thinks she did the right thing. Thanks for sharing this with me 2sure. It sounds to me like you and your daughter have great communication. I guess one can only hope to keep the childs respect and at the same time teach them that as a parent we have their best interest at heart. Mea, I'm sure you did the right thing. Certainly you would want to know if it was your 1st grader using those words. If your daughter feels betrayed by you telling the principal then explain to her that you were trying to help his parents to help him. Yes.. that is what I plan to do explain to her. She is pretty mature for her age so I have a feeling she will understand. I think if I compare this situation to all the other harmless stuff that happens on the bus for day to day like getting an elbow here and there.. or so and so hurt my feelings today, then she will see the diffrence between the stuff that kids can work out between themselves and the stuff that a parent must handle. Mea:)
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